Do I need a new T?

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Do I need a new T?
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Fri, 10-29-2010 - 6:43am

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Registered: 10-20-2009
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 4:03pm
Newlife, I agree with everthing you and you said it waaayyyyy much better....love ur new pic too!

Alice, Newlife has put tons of info on this board about ways how we can change our focus to us and change our way of thinking. I have said before I wished when I was ending my A I had this info, b/c everyone on this board kept saying focus on you, not him. But I didn't really "get it" that I needed to address the things I wasn't OK with about myself, how I had stinkin thinkin and caused tons of my own pain in my life and that once I recognized the holes that I was using xap to fill, I was capable of doing all along. It really and truly has nothing to with the xap.
Keep plugging away Alice, every day NC, makes you another day stronger and and something to be proud of!! ..((ALICE)) ...N_S
BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 4:07pm

Thank you :)

I just posted this in the healing library - but I think Alice (and the rest of us) could benefit but it seems particularly suited to the current discussion.

(((((Alice)))))))),

What chapter do you see yourself in?

THERE'S A HOLE IN MY SIDEWALK
Autobiography in Five Short Chapters
By Portia Nelson

Click on a chapter heading to learn more.

Chapter One
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost .... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out. Chapter Two
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend that I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in this same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out. Chapter Three
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in ... it's a habit ... but, my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately. Chapter Four
I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

Chapter Five
I walk down another street.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Fri, 10-29-2010 - 7:09pm
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 7:44pm

Very proud of you :) Keep it up!

Bodhi

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 8:31pm

WOO HOO!!!! HIGH 5 SISTER!!!!!!

KEEP DOIN THAT!!!!!!

:)

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 08-25-2010
Fri, 10-29-2010 - 9:22pm

I've only just begun reading all the old posts and so I haven't read your story in it's entirety - but it sounds like you are still resistant to this new life without the xAP.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sat, 10-30-2010 - 12:17am

You rock, Alice!

You could have sent off a blistering letter because 'your therapist told you it was okay' and maybe a small part of you wanted to re-engage, but another


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