Do MM have triggers

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Do MM have triggers
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 6:50pm
I am always compelled to read about the triggers we have about AP but I wonder if this happens to the MM. I mean how many times a day do I need to think about this person. Or if a song comes on the radio that we talked about or if I drive by a restaurant we went to these feelings come up. Do they have triggers or do they just move on? I want to think that this person is feeling like me. What are the odds?
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 7:14pm

Most likely they do have triggers as well - that's why some of them stubbornly fish months after game is over - but in all reality, I don't think they ever get hurt as much as us.

How many affair support board for MEN will you find on internet? How many of them do hands holding, exchanging empowering songs and affirmations, go to therapy, getting to "core issues" and so on?

I probably sound jaded, but after my affair I just think less of men in general. Sad, I know...but who cares what they fell/think...YOU are who's really important:)

XOXO
Gone

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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 7:49pm
I suspect they do, but possibly
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 8:40pm

I would imagine they have as many triggers as we do, however, they are probably quicker to terminate them, taking a more proactive stance so they don't occur again. For instance, if there is a song or place that was enjoyed or not, my guess is they make every effort to kill the trigger! When indifference hits, the triggers are just another annoyance in my life and I feel nothing but disgust at myself and xap, so I stay away from known triggers.

Mish

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 8:48pm
Although it's sometimes hard to believe, the XAPs are human too, so I can't imagine a MM wouldn't have triggers as well. Yes, I agree that men are just more adept at compartmentalizing things, so it would seem they are less effected by endings. But whatever. Who cares? We can only protect and worry about ourselves at this point.
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 9:00pm

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You made me laugh. Some stunts that my x pulled, I was just refusing to believe that grown man with highly stressful and demanding job could act like 2 years old baby or some kind of alien who actually has no idea about anything.

Of course it all came down to him not giving a cr@p. Really simple:)

Sorry for off...:)But I just feel sooo good today. 4 weeks of LC/NC, yay.

XOXO
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Sat, 03-20-2010 - 9:09am

GBG, a big cheers to you!!! 4 weeks is awesome. You are doing a

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Sun, 03-21-2010 - 4:49am

I think of that too