Do they come back?

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Registered: 02-04-2004
Do they come back?
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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 8:16am
Question for y'all... Do these men come back?

My A ended because he said he chose his fiance because they are getting married in May, and he didn't want to start over. They don't have a good relationship where he could even tell her he wasn't happy. I want to move on, but have a HUGE fear of moving on and him coming back when I am with someone else. Do they usually come back? I did think for awhile that he would leave, becuase there was times where he didn't care if she caught him with me. Heck, she did catch me with him, and still stays. What is y'all's experience with these men coming back?

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Registered: 04-01-2003
In reply to: jlt242
Mon, 03-29-2004 - 3:09pm
I thought it was just me and men... I see I'm not alone :)

All of my serious relationships in my life (including my XH) have all worked the same way. There were problems, I jumped up and down trying to get my partner's attention to help fix the problems, I eventually turn emotionally dead when guy does nothing, I dump the person, they show up 6 months or so down the road BEGGING to try again. One thing about me... I'll sit in crap for a LOOOOOONNNGGG time (years) and then boom, I'm outa there. Never to return. While I'm in a relationship, I have given so many chances - forgave too many times. But, I've never gone back to anyone - ever. I get so mad when I think about it. Why did they ever bother coming back when six months before they act like they don't give a rat's butt. Men are dense (well, except you NRE :)

However, I do see a pattern here. Maybe, I'm the common denominator :(

Bird

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