Do they ever go away?

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Do they ever go away?
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Sun, 12-12-2004 - 12:19pm

EX-OM is a complete jerk, he won't go away...Help!!!! He calls my friends, family, everybody he can to get to me. I changed all my phone numbers. He even called my Ex-H telling him to have me call him. He isn't handling this rejection very well. The last time I spoke to him he was very hateful to me so I shut him out completely. He is now telling my friends he was just angry and needs to talk to me. NO he don't and he is not. I am so glad he was hateful to me, it showed me finally that I don't need him in my life. Rephrase!!! Not going to have him in my life. My Ex-H was very physically abusive, I want a better life than to start with the same life again. A friend once told me, we are subject to pick the same rotten apples through out life just a different package. Another friend LOL put it that we had a taste for sh*t!!! I guess so, LOL. Anybody got any SCOPE?

Signing this,,, my Freshlife( should be Fresh start at life)

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 12-12-2004 - 4:38pm

Fresh

Yes if you set rock hard boundries that they never ever get to cross for any reason they do eventualy give up, but may come by from time to time to see if you are sticking to your reslove to be rid of them.

Zero communication or response to anything they say or do is a good place to start.

Free

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 12-12-2004 - 7:56pm

Your post really made me laugh up a storm! Girl, hand me the listerine when you're finished with it cause I think I have a taste for crap too!

I know XOM is going to try and get to me even if I make it hard, that has always been his pattern. If he can't call or email then he'll write me letters, etc. I have to ignore it all. I just hope he doesnt show up on my doorstep one day, but I don't think he would chance the gas money to drive here to be rejected. I was joking with my friend one day about it, that I gave to charity and now they want an annual contribution!

Jazzdiva

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Mon, 12-13-2004 - 5:34am

~~~I don't think he would chance the gas money to drive here to be rejected. I was joking with my friend one day about it, that I gave to charity and now they want an annual contribution!~~~

Hi there Your XOM sounds just like mine. I think they made one prototype of the typical OM and then cloned them all (character i mean)...
He wouldnt want to spend anything, not even on petrol, once we went on a drive and he parked at a petrol pump and said - sweetie do u have money? i will return it to u..
gee.. honestly i have been doing a lot of charity over the past 2 years, to the wrong cause..

you keep up the NC with him 2002, I am going to do the same
Trish