do you seek vengenace?
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do you seek vengenace?
| Fri, 03-26-2004 - 8:19am |
A little back ground first, was in an "A" for the last three years, left my H for the MM for promises he made me,,three years later he is still very much married,, :for the sake of teh KIDS" crock of *****. Anyways, M took me away in January making promises things are going to change and all that,, well guess what,, off they go AGAIN on thier family vacation,, his kids are not young at all, 13.16.18, I have had enough, he betrayed my trust, he betrayed me, so told him to go home to his wife and put things togather or get out,, but leave me the hell alone, I want my life back....Question is Yes I am hurt and so very very angry,, but do I have the right to tell his wife,,not so much for vengence but more so to make ME feel better about what he made me into a "MISTRESS", something I will have to live with for the rest of my life and it is something I can not accept, and yes I knew he was married and all but so was I and we promised each other, that we would be together and I have held my part of teh promise, but he only thinks of himself and HIS kids,, not MINE ,,He is a CAKEMAN and NOW I feel he should not only have his cake and eat but wear the ICING on his face!
opions please??????
Ladyinwaiting40
WHO WILL NEVER WAIT FOR NO MAN EVER AGAIN!

The best revenge is getting on with your life and being happy! Work on making yourself a better person and someday he can look at you and EAT HIS HEART OUT. :)
I know it's an overly-simplistic answer, but I truly don't think seeking vengeance is the best way to go.
What struck me about your post was that you mentioned his kids twice, both times dismissing his concern for them. Once you stated his concern was a crock of... and the other time you raged about how he only cares about himself and his own kids and not yours.
Personally, it isn't his responsibility to worry about your kids and their well being, its yours. Why are you so angry that he may be putting his kids first...Maybe some guilt over the fact that his kids have both of their parents together and yours don't?
As for him making you a mistress...he didn't do that, you did it on your own. When you left your husband and he waffled on leaving his wife, you had a choice, become the OW or leave him until he left his family...You chose to become the OW and he accommodated you, but you chose that life. He is definitely responsible for his part in the affair, but you then should take responsibility for your own part. No one forced you into this relationship, you willingly entered into it.
Should you tell his family? Absolutely not! Why would you want to? is it because you are being
Do whatever you can to work through your anger, but releasing it on his wife is selfish and not necessary.
Clairce
Don't tell. The others are right, the best revenge is a good life. Yes, try to forgive yourself, seek help, I did. We're praying for you.
lily
Edited 3/26/2004 2:22 pm ET ET by lily022
Good luck....
Don't do anything in anger, this is not the fault of the kids or his wife, you got played by a player , burn those bridges and move on when your ready and build a real life no more fantasies.
F
You have learned a good lesson. Men don't generally leave their wife and kids for the OW. If he cheated on his wife, he certainly would have cheated on you. My guess is he will go on to another affair and will do the same to her.
Most married couples experience attractions outside their marriage, but most don't act on it because it is not a good idea. It only begets heartache for all who are involved.
will I wait, because he is so afraid of hurting his kids,, NO!,,,I willnot compete with kids,,,am my own woman and I will just be me, he does not want me leave,, he says he can not leave his wife because of the fear of hurting his kids,,, then he will have to hurt cause I HAVE MOVED ON
thanks for listening guys , this has been one hard, long lonely road,,, but have seen the light,, hurt his wife , what for?, hurt his kids, they have enough on their plate their father lies to them, their mother uses them to get what she wants from him,, YEAH Gouvernemet of tomorrow, me,,,my kids have adjusted and are all in college now,, me I WILL SURVIVE,, and no malich intended to anyone out there but if your thinking of having an affair the cost and the price you pay, is never worth it!! Love yourself first and never let no man nor woman ever treat nor love you less than you feel you are truly worth
Off to my first day of pure freedom in 24 years
ladyinwaiting40
NEVER TO WAIT FOR ANY MAN EVER AGAIN!