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| Wed, 10-27-2004 - 12:17pm |
I have maintained NC for almost 5 weeks. MY XMM has not contacted me either. I called him last after we ended and he was cold and said he would call back but didn't. I told him we needed to be with our spouses but was having a hard time not talking to him though. He blew up and I called him back a week later to make sure no hard feelings and it was fine between us. He told me he was thinking of me all weekend and could never hate me. I didn't say it back and got off the phone. I guess that was the official ending but I called three days later.This is why it has been 5 weeks. I saw him over the weekend and at first acted like we didn't know each other. I talked to his wife and he talked to my husband. LAter we saw them again and I again talked to wife and he talked with husband. Then we walked over to the guys and Xmm asked what we were about to do and I could'nt resist and blurted out and said "you need to go get your pregnant wife something to eat." He just looked over at me and I don't remember what he said back and we all left and I said bye to his wife. I know they are not happy about being pregnant right now and it is really hard on them so I guess I was trying to be bitchy but in a nice way. He knows that I want a child with my husband and we are trying. I told his wife that too. They found out they were pregnant a week after we ended things. Do you think I handled things well by not calling and by acting the way I did. I could have called when I found out his wife was pregnant or when I found out he was in a bar fight(yes, I know -redneck) and had to miss work a couple of days bc of injuries. Do you think that he thinks I am still pinning for him bc I did call the last time and he didn't want to talk to me so it looks like he rejected me at the end. Trust me - I will not call back. I think his wife being pregnant has been a blessing for me bc I will not call him now.

Not to be blunt, but
WHO KNOWS, AND WHO CARES???
Its over. Let it go. Don't fret over the way it ended or what was said and how you look to him now. It just doesn't make any difference.
I know its hard not to wonder, but you have really got to find a way to concentrate on something more productive. If you're getting ready to be pregnant, why not devote the time you'd spend wondering about him to reading up on pregnancy and babies etc. Join the board here where people talk about trying to get prenant. That would be a much better use of your time!
It's okay, I will tell you again: yes, you did good by not contacting him. Yes, you did fine when you ran into him. If you are feeling foolish because he has rejected you -- despite the fact that he HAS to reject you to focus on his family -- think how much MORE foolish you will feel if you chase after him looking for validation.
It is time to stop dwelling on this! It serves NO purpose! It is unhealthy!