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Do you think it would help if I
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 10:55am |
talked to ex-MM, to just close the door. As it stands now, we both know that it is over, but I just need to say it to him. I need some sort of closure to this relationship, and what I'm doing now is not helping. He would never be man enough to say, "it's over". There are some things I really want to say to him. I may feel better, and he may say somethings that make me feel worse, but it's something that I feel like I need to do.
I'm so scared, I've got butterflies in my stomach, because I plan to do this at lunch which is about an hour away.
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I had my contact with him 1 week ago Monday. We finally ended things. Just like u we had done this many times but never stuck to it. This time it is different I can feel it and we both talked about it. I have never acted like a lunitic with him and we both knew exactly were we stood with this affair. The reason why it ended was not because things got bad between us, it was because we almost got caught. I did not want to end this affair, but it was the right thing to do for both of us. I know I have a long road to recovery because of what I feel for him. I am very determined to move on....
Thank You for your advice, If there is anything I can do for u please dont hesitate.
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Let us know how things worked out at your lunch.
I know a lot of the responses to your dilemma were telling you not to bother trying to talk to him, but in my case it helped a lot once I was able to finally sit down alone and speak with him for 15 minutes. In my case I just wanted to let him know that I appreciated the good things he did for me, and treasured the nice memories I had, but for his sake and mine I will be keeping my distance from now on. He needed it because I knew that trying to have any kind of relationship with me right now was too much pressure on him and I needed it because not being able to be with him was too much heartache and pressure for me.
Anyway, it was really a nice ending. I told him I'd always admire him - from afar.
It's been about a week now, and I'm doing great because I said the things I really needed to say to him, he listened, yet it was done in a way so that there was no argument, no hard feelings, and we were able to express how important we had been in each other's lives, but the logistics of trying to continue were so complicated that it really wasn't worth it. I don't know if any of this speaks to you, but sometimes this type of approach can work. Did for me. It made ME feel better, and that's all that really counts now, isn't it?
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