Does anyone else feel this way

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Registered: 02-08-2010
Does anyone else feel this way
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Mon, 02-15-2010 - 2:29pm

Im pretty new to board.

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Registered: 12-11-2009
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 2:55pm
Jimmy, Do you have a trusted friend you can talk to? Can you get some counseling? Is your wife aware what is going on? Why is it that you're in a sexless marriage? I don't know much of your story, but I do know that A's are very, very painful. I also have 3 kids, although grown. I too was in a pretty sexless marriage only because I let that happen. Bored I guess, lonely, wanted more passion. My affair lasted more than a year and I also fell very hard as did he. I realized, however that I had way, way, way too much tolose. The respect of my children and the rest of my family and friends. And for what???? Yes, passion, excitement, what I thought was love. But hey, real life with this guy would have all the same problems eventually. Soooo....I decided it was time for me to make some changes in myself. I went to counseling and began talking about why I was bored in my marriage. It wasn't just my husband. It takes two. I'm still nowhere near where I want to be, but I do know that the A was killing me. The highs and lows were making me sick. Yes I do miss him. It has been many months since I ended it and my setbacks always came when he or I would break the no contact rule. But it does get better with time, trust me on this. You and your wife need to talk, do some real soul searching. She is the one you fell in love with from the beginning, had your children, etc. etc. Get some help Jimmy, this woman is no good for you.