does roommate know?

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Registered: 03-08-2005
does roommate know?
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Sun, 03-20-2005 - 5:01pm

Hi,
I am in what feels like a bad situation. If you have any advice, it would be greatly appreciated.

I have lived with a roommate for 3 years, and we are good friends. About a year ago, she started dating this guy, and he was over all the time, so I grew to like him too.

Anyway, my roommate got offered a large amount of money for a contract job overseas, and decided to take it, as it was only three months. She told me she would keep her place with me and be back when the contract ended.

Her boyfriend and I hung out and he would sleep over in her bed. We really hit it off, and one night we each drank a little too much, and ended up necking a bit. That was all we did physically, but it feels like he and I are somehow cheating on my roommate.

The weird thing is that she is back now, and for the first time of us living together, we have started fighting. We've raised out voices before, but one time one of our arguments abruptly ended with her slapping me really hard across the face. I was shocked, and she quickly apologized.

If that was it, fine, but no. In the past 6 weeks she has slapped me three times. The second time she slapped me, I slept her back just as hard, and we ended up hugging and making up.

I asked her boyfriend if he told her about us, but he said no. I was going to find another place to live, but my roommate begged me not to leave, which would be a strange thing to do if she suspected something between her boyfriend and me.

The last time she slapped me I slapped her back, and then she slapped me again, and this went on a few more times, with us arguing about stupid things and occasionally punctuating our thoughts with a slap, when her boyfriend got in between and grabbed our hands. I also noticed that the slapping always occurred when my roommate's boyfriend was home.

I again started looking for a place with a new boyfriend of mine, which I'm hesitant about doing, and my roommate keeps begging me not to leave.

So why is she slapping me all of a sudden!

Any ideas?

Lara

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Registered: 03-13-2004
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 5:16pm

wow , its a regular slap party over there

i would find a new place to live , by yourself or with another roomate, just to avoid more trouble and slapping

my 2 cents,

max

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 03-20-2005 - 6:34pm

Lara

She sees how you and B/F interact and suspects something, so SLAP FEST 2005