Don't beat me up too bad :(
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Don't beat me up too bad :(
| Mon, 04-11-2011 - 4:16pm |
First of all, hi! It's been a few weeks since I've shown my face around here, for two reasons--first, I've taken some time off and went on a little vacation with my H (with mixed but ultimately positive results), and second, I've had an unfortunate relapse with xMM. So I'm back to square one and feeling a little (a lot) defeated, but more determined than I've ever felt to stick to NC this time.

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Anyway... Not about me... but you did remind me of my $hit last year and want you to see your situation is not unique. Let him go!!!
Chechi
This is incredibly disgusting. I have a sister who REALLY has cancer. Who is really fighting for her life and really needs as much love and support from everyone!
This stuff just boils my blood.
Silverdoe,
He is lying. Lying and Lying. And why would you have bought into this at all? At all?
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
To answer everyone, he is not blocked because there is 100% NO POSSIBLE WAY for me to block him at work. He sits across from me. He emails and IMs me all day, and I can't block a coworker on email/IM. Also there are very, very, VERY few jobs in my field where I live (and my husband doesn't want to move), so it's been nearly impossible to find another job (I've been looking). So until I can figure out a way out of here, I am TRAPPED with him. It is horrible.
I don't have much to add that hasn't already been said - but - you end this affair by ENDING THIS AFFAIR.
I don't care what excuses you have for feeling TRAPPED with him - YOU ARE NOT trapped with him, you are trapped within yourself.
I can only imagine the crap you would both get in from your employer if they were to find out that so much their workers time was going into sending & receiving email/IMs that were not work related.
It is a horrible situation. I feel for you - I do. I worked with xMM after I ended my affair and it was AWFUL.
You can choose to focus on all the reasons that ending your affair will be challenging, or you can focus on taking actions that make it POSSIBLE.
Ending an affair is a MINDSET - one that doesn't require the other person to "get it" - just ourselves.
I believe when one is committed to ending their affair, they end it.
End of (affair) story.
I wish you well,
TU.
Well, you're going to have to buck up then.
MyXap is my direct manager so I cannot block his emails and whilst he is not fishing he does ask how o am. My LC is answer the work stuff only. You can do this - ignore and delete ALL non-work interaction if u cannot block him. Avoid looking at him and do not engage in any personal chat.
He is manipulating you and you need to send a clear signal by your actions and stick to it. I know it is hard at work but what else is there? You can do this.
yellowone x
"Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves." ~Henry David Thoreau~
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