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Don't have an affair until you read this
| Sat, 01-08-2005 - 6:46pm |
This is a true story of my affair with my "soul mate." But I'm going to boil it all down as short as possible. Please read this! Today, I am sitting here alone, divorced from the husband I cheated on, as a single Mom. I spent ten years of my life with this "soul mate." Every time I wanted to end it he begged me to stay. Told me I am the love of his life. Cried and cried. He was married too, but eventually his wife left him because of our affair. He was devastated. He wanted to kill himself. He felt such guilt and his children hated him. He started sleeping with every woman he could. He lied to me, cheated on me (what a surprise!) and yet continued to beg me to stay with him, to help him through the guilt and pain and confusion. I did. And then my husband left me. My "soul mate" assured me he would take care of me, love me forever and never hurt me again. But guess what, after two more years of his "hurt and confusion" he bailed on me again. He's back with his ex. Says he will always love me, but can't take the guilt. I have been used and abused. The worst part is I have no one to blame but myself. Now I am alone, my children are without their father, and my "soul mate" is romancing his ex to prove his adoration. Please, please respect yourself enough to walk away! I know it's true love, and he's your soul mate, but life is not that simple. I gave up so many things because I believed in his lies. I made decisions based on him and now he is gone. So many times I have just wanted to die. I am alone and depressed. But believe me, if ever there were two people on this earth who were "soul mates" he and I were. PLEASE BELIEVE IT WHEN YOU ARE TOLD "DON'T DO IT!!!!!!"

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Thanks for the post. I learned from it. I'm not in an affair or a relationship now, but I like to lurk on this board to find out what kind of consequences result from an affair. I have been drawn to women in relationships and had the opportunity to begin affairs, but I always made it clear in these situations that the relationship must end first. They never do end quickly and by the time they do I'm onto something else. Sometimes I think people find it harder to simply tell someone it's over. It's simpler to just end it by having an affair. An affair will definitely put an end to things. Anyway, I don't like to encourage people to leave a relationship. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth. A long relationship usually doesn't end in a day, anyway.
It is interesting to compare the people on this board and the ones seeking comfort because their SOs have cheated on them on the other board. I'm not sure who is more miserable, but both forums are helpful and hopeful. I wish you the best and thanks for your story.
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Edited 1/12/2005 11:05 pm ET ET by skip_mcgillicuddy
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