Don't jump ahead

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Don't jump ahead
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Mon, 01-25-2010 - 9:20pm

This is mainly for the newbies....


You have enough to deal with because you have just ended an affair.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 9:28pm

Thank you. Really, really - thank you.

It's tempting...tempting to 'project' into tomorrow, the day after that, next week, next month, the month after that in anticipation of the pain finally ending. You're right though, that really doesn't help any...and the pain hasn't gone, at it isn't a month from now. It's today, and today is what I need to get through. And then, when it's tomorrow, same thing. It's hard counting in hours...but, if that's what I need to do, then it is.
Thank you again!

----
'It may be that when we no longer know what to do,
We have come to our real work,
And that when we no longer know which way to go,
We have begun our real journey'
- Wendell Berry

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 9:53pm

Good reminder, Vic :)


Just getting through today is hard enough...too much thought into the future can be too overwhelming.


"Just for today" is a good motto.


Hope all is well with you and yours.


((hugs))


Clarity


Chocolate Valentine


"You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present"

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 8:17am

Clarity I feel like I am now behind the scenes of a once

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 3:58pm

Hi Victory,


I noticed there are a lot of ladies in LC situations on the board lately. I believe it could help them if you share your story again and how you were able to break the "spell" as you put it. I know Iddy shares her story a lot but I was thinking it could be helpful to hear from another that was in LC and overcame triumphantly!


Just a thought and if you have some time.


Big hugs,


E1


Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 02-09-2010 - 8:15am
I can do that E1.