double standards...

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Registered: 09-16-2003
double standards...
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Fri, 05-14-2004 - 12:28pm
I am so angry with my XOM I could hit him. Do some damage physically. Why is that these men have double standards on how they should be treated ie, like a king and how they treat you ie, piece of nobody waiting on the wings to fix all their problems in life??

OM get jealous if somebody who I don't even know from adam flirts with me. I didn't ask for it, so what I got a little attention. Why should it all be my fault?? I don't understand that logic. Worse thing is that these "flirting friends" are his friends not mine! ha!

He can call me fat bitch but I can't return the favor. Why not? Why should I be the one always to swallow my pride and forget his insults? why? why? Why should I be the one to say sorry all the time. Why can't he do the same for me if he wants me to do it?? Hmmmm, double standards if you ask me.

Is it just me who is so tired of with putting up with this or anybody else have the same problem with their OM's as well??

All I can say to people like OM is be prepared to be treated the way you treat others.

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 05-16-2004 - 8:32pm
Hey, I've been there so I know what its like on the inside. You are right, there was a time that I did'nt have self esteem. Those days are over. (not that I would let anyone call me a fat bitch, but we all have different levels of abuse that we will endure for the sake of what we think is "love"). I appreciate your two cents, I am not insulted. I just think it is time for me to walk away from this board. I come here to share my experience to help others, not so I can get criticized for it and have it thrown back into my face.

Jazzdiva

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Mon, 05-17-2004 - 10:15am
Don't worry about S&B. Just ignore her. That's what I do anyways.

I agree with your sentiments about being able to post without thoughts/words being flung back at your face. Thanks for your original post. It did make a lot of sense to me. I would be the one having issues if I went back to whatever it was that OM was offering me. It wasn't much to begin with anyway. It was mostly gas, a lot of talk and no action to follow through. He probably wasn't too intersted in a long term relationship as I was. I suited him as a distraction.

Anyway, its all in the past for me. I feel relieved to be ending it. Kind of peaceful, not really feeling messed up with it ending. Just feeling kind of calm about it. I have a feeling I may not be returning here in a couple of weeks. There is a happy thought. :) I read your post about good things ending and I hope you feel strong enough to make the move too like me. Here is to us - moving on to better things in life. Good Luck to you!

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