A dream of a crush has become a reality!

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A dream of a crush has become a reality!
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 10:49pm
I'm in the same situation as many, but mine, my differ, because of the fact it is not yet gone beyond then a k.i.s.s. Not sure how to let this lust go. I never had any sex but we kiss many times. He tells me, one night of lustie sex and that's all, as if nothing happen just one night and go on with our normal life. I would love to have one night and conitue to leave a normal life, but my relationship is to strong of love for me to attempt it. I just couldn't live without myself & without feeling guilty! I don't know what else to do??? Anyone????? After reading all these posts my intentions are to tell him this weekend, by ourselves that, there is noway> I can give in my family life for one night of fantasy. I decided to tell him with all crush and all, that there a goodbye to this desire of A NIGHT OF passion. I also thought, on telling him that he will always be my list> if me and my bf of 8yrs leave each other. Me my bf are not married which has let me to think that he don't love me like I think. My bf he a wonderful man, the perfect man that every women would love to have, but he does not give me the attention of telling me how much I mean to him etc. I do want to give a final goodbye kiss to my fantasy and continue my normal life before it turns into disaster! Anyone have any advice? This crush now can resist me, it weird because I never knew, until the first kiss when he open all his feelings. Anyway, i'm confused..



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Registered: 11-10-2003
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 11:04pm
I'm curious if this is indeed a real post. It seems that this person changes user names and posts different stories on all the affair boards. One thing remains constant throughout the postings, bad English, which leads me to believe it's one person posting these fake stories. If this is real, my apologies. If it is indeed the same person, please find something more useful to do with your time, this isn't funny to anyone going through the emotional turmoil of affairs.

atty

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 11:05pm
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Do yourself one really realy big favor and don't do the one night because it will not stop there, trust me on this he will be back for more and your ability to say no will get weaker and weaker, he will dominate and control your life.

I suggest no last meeting no last kiss NOTHING you are playing with real fire and you and your boyfriend will get burnt.

End it via phone or e-maill but don't see this person in person again, end it one time quickly cleanly and then enforce TOTAL NO CONTACT.

Then force your B/F to sit down and have a no holds bared talk with him were you have no secrets about what is missing for you in your relationship, give him a chance to shape up or risk losing your love BUT DON'T BE A CHEATER it will only destroy who you are.

Free

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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 11:14pm
This not a fake story. It just seems you cannot understand clearly my descriptions of my writing. I only have one screen name. You say, it hurtful to do this? It hurtful to know that you think I'm not real in the words I speak. This leads me away from this message boards, because of the fact, that I trusted to speak to others who are the same situation. But, if I'm so hard to understand, please, let me know, and I will not post? Anyone disagree or agrees?
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 11:30pm
WOW.. Thank you for your reply. It been so hard for me to get through this, because the person who i'm kinda having this affair lives by me, 2 doors down my townhome. Very close, where I see him almost everyday. Should I face him face to face this weekend? I feel as thou I have to tell him by ourselves, because we can't speak with one another from where we are at, due to our closeness and people around us. I know you say no goodbyes, but how else could I speak with him? I don't want to come on as an awful person to him. It comes to my suprise when you say, not to have a one nighter, because it can cause feelings. He told me that one night and it take away all our feelings and we can finally come to peace with our lust and go on with our life. I know this maybe personal and you don't have to answer this but did you have one night and it turned out to be a un resisted love? Can that happen, and why>? It hard to try to avoid him when in the weekend we all friends and neighbors come together for cookouts etc. it like a passion of love story that happens when are eyes meet. LOL. I know it sounds silly but it so deep, it like "i want you now." How you stop that!? I don't want to lose what I have that so much special because it true love. This new lust is just a crush and a want that we've have had for so long and now? The night that I drank he kiss me and from there it been a kiss and a want but never attempted anything other then that. Right now it been a waiting period of confusions. He calls me on my cel, and I'm not sure what to do about the contact with each other if we can speak in private and clean up the slate. Goodness, im all confused!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just know, i'm in a daze. Help!
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 4:30am
Porkypine's been rumbled lol - Well spotted, Atty ;)
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 9:55am
First of all who are you to judge? I know there only one who can go about that, and it sure ain't you... I guess we always get one of those weirdo's who doesn't know what else to do with there time then to try to find something to say to agitate people who post. Just stay out my posts if it doesn't apply to you.. I may speak another language, but I'm sure people understand me. I have no problems with others who I have spoken too or others who recently reply in my post's. It may be just you who can't read well. If you continue, I may just get you A&& out of these boards by reporting you. We all go through things in many different ways, my post does relate to others just not in the same situation as maybe some. Go find something better us to do with your time. Go post about your own problems, and as it seems to me, it may a critical thing. ;o) This is my first time posting, so I don't go around creating different screen names. I think you got the wrong person, sir.. it sad that we all can even get relief with posting without some type a&& excuse my language, to invade and try to make your situation worse by not helping to give experience inputs about situations that occur in our daily life. Please be aware I'm not wanting cause any arguments or debates, all I want is you to not continue to post at my message post. Thank you, GG


Edited 11/2/2004 11:00 am ET ET by shiningstarxsx
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 11:01am
It's amazing how clear your English became all of the sudden. I'm with Atty, the story and grammer look EXTREMELY familiar to me too, but the name is never the same.
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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 11:39am
*nod-nod*

*rolls eyes*

*nod-nod*

Posie x

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 11:47am


My sentiments exactly Posie,

We are here for a genuine purpose, because we need help to get through the AFTERMATH OF THE BREAKUP. I think instead of judging her we need to redirect her to the proper board.

Just my opinion..... For those of us going thru termoil today, Wishing lots of strength and peace.

Take Care.

Ladybug

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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 11:52am
Hiya Ladybug,

Just posted to you on your thread, lol!

This person has been posting on other boards, Atty, Jellie & I have encountered her before in about 3 different guises/usernames now. I'm certain she does need help, just perhaps not the sort of support we could really give her here.

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie

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