Dreams

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2009
Dreams
7
Wed, 08-11-2010 - 2:10pm

Last night I had a vivid dream. Xap and I met for lunch. He told me that he made a mistake and that he can't live without me. He wants to take care of me, give me the world. My response to him was clear and simple. I told him I love my husband. I told him I am not the same person he knew while we were in the A.

I sat straight up in bed. It felt as though it really happened. It was such an awesome feeling. I feel as though God was speaking to me through my dreams.

I have, in the past, had dreams of him that left me feeling sad and longing for what we once had...NO MORE!

My prayer is that you all can experience this kind of dream.

Love, AAI

Avatar for ratherbeme
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2010
In reply to: actingasif_
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 10:37am

"Sweet" dreams!!!

We only miss what could have been.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2010
In reply to: actingasif_
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 1:41pm

I think that is great... it means your subconscious has caught up with all of your hard work. You truly do believe that you've made the right choice. You truly do believe that you will never go back. Congrats to you!

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Sat, 08-14-2010 - 4:43pm

Ditto to what Jane said. I want to add that I find it amazing that our dreams can reaffirm what our alert and awake mind just cant seem to comprehend.


I too had a dream that I look back on and see as a HUGE milestone in my healing. In my dream I had admitted my A to my H, XMM had left his wife and he and I were now married...and I was miserable!!!! I was now living the life that I had always wanted, I was with XMM and was depressed because I now saw him for who he really was. He was insecure, controlling and a serial cheater. In that dream I

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-11-2009
In reply to: actingasif_
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 10:20am
Yes!! These kinds of dreams are very affirming. I too believe, Jane, that my subconscious finally caught up to what I always believed to be true. GMLB72, doesn't it feel like you got this amazing second chance? I think we all, deep down inside, know the truth about our A's. Keep working at it everybody! We all get there at our own pace. Keep your eyes wide open as to why your A happened so it NEVER happens again! Yes, RatherBeMe, very, very sweet!!
Love, AAI
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
In reply to: actingasif_
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 9:59pm
Wow, great experience. Yes, it would be good if all of us who had our A's ended for us by the xMM or xAP had a similar dream. I know it would really help me! Thanks for sharing!

MovingON

MovingON

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2010
In reply to: actingasif_
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 12:54am

HI


Im lurking here more and more and I am feeling very clear about things lately. I also had adream last night which is why I had to post.


I dreamt that I was with AP as a couple- again something I thought I wanted a while ago. He was stressed, preoccupied and I felt stressed as a result. I had anew hair cut and it was bright red. He made no bones about how it didnt suit the look he wanted for us and that I looked stupid. I was very upset.


I woke up and prompty told my (increasingly) wonderful H about the dream (leaving out the AP bit). I asked what would he think if I had a radical new haircut and bright red hair. He said- if it was still attached to your face, I wouldnt care what style you had.


Says so much huh

You are what you consistently do
You are what you consistently do
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-25-2010
In reply to: actingasif_
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 5:48am

Hi IGS


If ever i do something radical appearance wise (yes it is usually red hair) my
H laughs and says

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,