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| Thu, 01-21-2010 - 4:37pm |
I'm wondering if anyone can give me some help/advice on this one?
I am 4 days NC today, and my husband and I are doing really well considering all that we have gone through since mid December. He is currently on holidays and goes back to work next Thursday 28th Jan so we are able to spend plenty of time together at the moment, and our kids are home from school until the start of Feb too so there's is lots of 'family time'.
Anyway...last night my whole night's dreams were filled with xMM and I so hate that. It hasn't really happened until now but I've woken up feeling so drained today because of it. None of those dreams involved sex or anything (thank god) but instead, conversations, time together, exchanges - all different to the way things actually happened (ie. I dreamt we had a very sad and emotional 'parting' together?!) My husband and I are both so exhausted each night, probably from the emotional stuff we're both dealing with each day, so all I wanted to do was just keep falling back asleep cos I was sooo tired. But then I'd have another dream :(
Has this happened to anyone else? Are there any thoughts out there about this?
I am 4 days NC today, and my husband and I are doing really well considering all that we have gone through since mid December. He is currently on holidays and goes back to work next Thursday 28th Jan so we are able to spend plenty of time together at the moment, and our kids are home from school until the start of Feb too so there's is lots of 'family time'.
Anyway...last night my whole night's dreams were filled with xMM and I so hate that. It hasn't really happened until now but I've woken up feeling so drained today because of it. None of those dreams involved sex or anything (thank god) but instead, conversations, time together, exchanges - all different to the way things actually happened (ie. I dreamt we had a very sad and emotional 'parting' together?!) My husband and I are both so exhausted each night, probably from the emotional stuff we're both dealing with each day, so all I wanted to do was just keep falling back asleep cos I was sooo tired. But then I'd have another dream :(
Has this happened to anyone else? Are there any thoughts out there about this?

I have them too.
NC since 2/4/2010
Bestrong -
I can completely relate. I am nearly 4 months NC, and I'll be darned if I didn't have a dream about JAM last night!
Bestrong,
Our minds work on problems even while we sleep sometimes fortunately and sometimes unfortunately.
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.
dignity
Thank you so much for your wonderful advice...and again, it's so reassuring to know that there's others out there going through the same thing.
Dreams suck, as it's almost like they're out of our control!! But if it happens again I'm going to do what you suggested. One good thing is that last night I actually had dreams with my husband in them (they weren't bad either, just 'normal' dreams but still better with him in them than xMM).
Thanks heaps again, and looking forward to that 'white light' when I need it :)