Dreams....ugh!
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| Wed, 05-11-2005 - 9:05am |
For the past 3 nights in a row I've been having dreams about XMM and his W. The dreams don't really make much sense and though each dream has been a little different they all pretty much interpret to say the same thing. In the dreams, I always seem to run into the two of them somewhere where I'm meeting other friends. His W starts yelling obscenities at me and calling me vicious names. (Which is what she has done in her past e-mails to me.) I let her do it for a while until I start to defend myself and we get pretty heated. Then XMM steps in says "ok, enough you two." with a big smile on his face. Like he loves that we're fighting over him. It makes me ill when I wake up, because I NEVER want him to think that he is worth being fought over. I don't understand why I'm having these dreams. I can only guess because even though it's been over (and glad about that)I do still think about him. EVERYDAY! Not necessarily nice things (though not always bad either), but thoughts do cross my mind unwillingly. I can't help it. I feel like I'm over him and way beyond this now. But maybe I'm not????
It could also be because the hang up calls at work have started again since the last "confrontation" with me, him and his W. We have had NC since then but he still tries to get his way "in". Yesterday he was driving behind me and he caught up to me and started honking his horn. I completely ignored it. Didn't even look over his way. I wish I had one of those memory eraser sticks they used in Men in Black, that I could use on myself and forget he ever existed!!!
Pal

Pal
It seems most likely your having the dreams because you are unable to emotionally disconnect from the "SITUATION" thanks to the hang u/e-mails and NO BALLS making a pest out of himself.
TIME TO GET A RESTRAING ORDER against HIM and HER to force them to stop contacting you or at the least have your lawyer write them a strong letter warning them of legal action if they continue to contact you in any way whats so ever.
BOTH of these people need to take you seriously and right now they don't.
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Or a memory erasure like in the movie Jim Carey was in about Sunshine and the Spotless Mind something or other lol. ( I saw the movie but can't remember the title correctly)
Free,
I don't know if I could actually get a restraining order since I can't "prove" he's the one calling and hanging up. I only assume it is because this happens everytime we "break-up" or go NC. Also, his W hasn't e-mailed me since my last post on this situation. Could a restraining order actually get him to stop "accidentally" driving past me on the road? He works on the road and has a specific route he has to go. He happens to drive right by my road (not necessarily my house) everyday. I remember looking forward to seeing him pass every day. Now it's just AHHHHH!!!!!
Pal
The phone company has a record of all calls so if needed they can provide that sort of info for court.
A judge can order him to change his route and to stay so many yards/miles away from you.
BUT more importantly with the letter or court date is the shock value as in driving the point home to him and her that you want nothing to do with them EVER and to stay away.
It seems clear that it is him doing the hang ups so scaring him maybe what you need to do. (by the way is this guy NUTS ARE WHAT).
Do you have *69 at work ??
Free
PS: Openly dating the single guy might be just the ticket to get ride of this COO COO BONG, and by the way it is the 21st century so it's OKAY to ask him out.
Edited 5/11/2005 10:23 pm ET ET by mfreenow
Free,
No *69 at work. I've tried it and the company won't let us have that or caller ID. As far as the phone company, I know he wouldn't be trying to call from his own cell phone. (evidence for the W) He calls from payphones or his businesses that he stops at. So again, wouldn't be able to prove it. He hasn't called my cell to "hear my voicemail" this time like he used to. It's not as bad as it has been in the past. It's just enough to irritate me.
And YES, he is nuts!! though he has NONE!!!! (as we know :) )
Pal
>"And YES, he is nuts!! though he has NONE!!!! (as we know :) )"< HAH HAH, at least your sense of humor is making a full recovery :o}<==<
Maybe if you ignore him long enough he will get bored and find some other toy to chew on
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