Driving myself nuts

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Registered: 03-04-2005
Driving myself nuts
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:30pm
Hi. I recently ended a 2 year A with a MM. We have had NC for about 2 weeks and it is driving me nuts. I just keep wondering am I that easily forgotten? Did he ever mean anything he said? I really don't know what I expect or want from him. I am the one who ended it by simply saying "I am done feeling this way and I just can't be with you anymore." Of course he argued the point with me but I stayed strong. Now it seems that every time I get my mind on something else, there he is leaving me messages saying "I miss you and I love you." It always makes all those mixed feelings come back. Does anyone have any advice? Sorry for rambling. Kristin
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Registered: 03-13-2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:49pm

always,

of course MM will want u back, he wants to eat his cake and eat it also, free sex

try to focus on something else, if he cares for u he will respect your wishes and will let u go , r u married? try to rebuild your M if that is an option, are u single? try to be happy so u will eventually attract the right single man

my 2 cents, i know its hard to just cut off contact, its like a drug, we are addicted to it

take care,
max

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 7:55am

Kristin

Max is right, these MM like to have there cake and eat it to but they rarely make a commintment to the OW and follow through on it they always have an excuse.

Don't let yourself be USED your intitled to a real life with a real relationship of your own , these guys almost never leave there wife they LIE LIE LIE to everyone, THEY ARE CRAZY MAKERS.

KEEP NO CONTACT don't respond to him you left on YOUR TERMS and there is no better way to go then the way you did anything else will on make you feel far worse.

Free

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Registered: 01-24-2005
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 6:17pm

I remember receiving the "I love you and miss you" voice mails (I wouldn't answer my phone if he called), emails and off line messages when I ended things. Even when I emailed him and asked him to please let me go and stop all contact, he continued. Everytime I would receive one of these messages, it was often impossible to hold back the tears. Finally, I emailed him and asked him to please stop, it was upsetting me, and to let me go. It continued. I had no choice but to close my email account, and change my cell phone number. It made healing and moving forward so much easier. Perhaps this will work for you.

Good luck