Drunk dialed by xA

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Drunk dialed by xA
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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 1:56pm
So I woke up this morning and noticed I had a new message on my cell phone. When I checked my missed calls, I saw that my xA had called 4 times at 12:41am, 12:44am, 2:06am and 2:13am! He left a message that said, "Hey it's me - if you're going out tonight you should give me a call". He sounded drunk. I didn't call him back.

What really sucks is a few weeks ago we had talked and he knew I was going out with my friends and he was going out with his. I told him if he wanted to get together that night to call me - he did - but not for the reasons I wanted him too. He wanted sex - I told him I still had feelings for him and couldn't just be his "booty call". I made myself pretty clear. I'm not stupid enough to think he called last night for any other reason...but how do I handle?

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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 3:02pm
Hiya Actress,

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Whoa, this guy must really have max respect for you, eh? Oh, and obviously couldn't find another booty call between the hours of 12:44am and 2:13am, poor wee thing.

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Well, if you wanna be one of his booty calls, phone him back & get yourself put back on the booty call list. You already know what madness that way lies. You say it's not working for you, so why keep headed down that dead-end road? Down to you, hon. Entirely your call.

Think about it a second, Actress. Calling even if it's only to tell him you `ain't nobody's darn booty call' *STILL* gives him ego strokes since you obviously care enough to be worrying about what he thinks to have dialled the number.

If you actually want to end this thing, don't return the call. No contact at all. None. Not in response and do not initiate. No emails, no letters (anyone remember those?!), no smoke signals, no launching of carrier pigeons or releasing of specially trained morse-code buzzing wasps. No Contact.

Block his number from your cell & home phones, block his known email addresses and/or change your own usual email addresses, block & delete him entirely from your buddy lists on icq/msn/yahoo or IM service of choice (if you can't see he's on you can't wonder what he's up to, etc).

Your call, hon.

Wishing you strength & peace,

Posie

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 5:07pm
Diva

Delete the messages, do not call him do not break no contact or let him break it.

Monday call your phone company and have his number blocked from calling you.

You don't need this crap froma drunk.

Free

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Registered: 09-21-2004
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 7:39pm
Diva--

Posie and Mefree are absolutely right. Ignore the calls and move on. I laughed out loud at Posie's response -- gotta love the way she cuts through the crap and says it how it really is :-)

Won't it be great to get to the point when you see those missed calls, laugh then shake your head with dismay for the poor miserable person who is so desperate that he has to call you in the middle of the night because he can't get it anywhere else.

Stay strong !!



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Registered: 09-10-2004
Sun, 10-10-2004 - 10:06pm
There was a time my former MM was supposed to meet me after a particular function. After the estimated time of his arrival came and went, I went to bed. At 2:00am, I heard a tapping at my front door. I opened the door a crack, saw him standing (swaying) there. I think I said, "you're a bit late", to which he answered, "I just wanted to say good-night to you." I replied, "Okay, good-night." and I shut the door in his face and went right back to bed! He phoned me the next day to explain that "the guys" had kept him out that night. He didn't even clearly remember coming over to my house! And I let him drive home! (Still don't know how I got the strength to turn him away, except for that I was really tired...)

Stay strong, move on and away from this guy...sounds like a big user and loser!!!


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