Effects on my health (and yours)

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Effects on my health (and yours)
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Wed, 12-30-2009 - 12:49am

I posted this to someone on another thread and thought it might be helpful to someone else.


I've always been the type of person to think I can handle things....I can get over it.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 1:11am
Hmmm, Mickey, I don't know your age, but is it possible your syptoms could be a decline in hormones? Our hormones control so much in our bodies and if they are out of whack - we experience compounding symptoms. Actually we don't have to be menopausal to have unbalanced hormones. Anyway, it was just a thought as I was reading your post. Whatever it is, I hope you find an answer. ((hugs))
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 7:02am

Mickey,

I am so sorry you are not feeling well. After my A ended I fell into depression, but not until the reality hit that it was really over. Up until then I was still pumped on the adrenaline running through my veins just from the anger I felt. When my reserves ran out, I was experiencing similar symptoms as yours but as Bandk said, my hormone levels were completely whacked out. When you go from being sexually active for 4.5 years to NOTHING, the mind-body connection suffers. I know you are M and I saw your thread on trying to reconnect with H, but a woman's love life is deeply connected to her emotional state. If we are brokenhearted , we tend to shut down.

About 2 years ago I started experiencing anxiety attacks, something I have never had before. I also went in for blood work and all they found were low levels of certain vitamins in my system. The doc hooked me up with anxiety drugs,told me to take Vitamin D3, magnesium, and large doses of fish oil, . It took about 6 months to start feeling better. I still have no sex drive but getting older can do that anyway. ;-)

Please keep us updated on your health. We all want to see you feeling better.

((Hugs))

~ Iddy~

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-15-2009
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 11:10am

Hi Bandk & Iddy,


I will let you know once I know more, but I'm not sure about the hormone's thing.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Wed, 12-30-2009 - 11:25am

mickey -


I too was strong, handled everything life threw down on my path. Miscarriages, my father's death, complicated business endeavors, nothing hit me as hard as my affair. I struggled ending it and then struggled even more getting over the ending. I wish I had sought out help, but I didn't. I didn't want my husband to have any clue something was up. So for over a year, I dealt with sadness, anger and frustration all tied to the affair, xAP and my behavior. Basically, I was in an emotional abyss, so far down I wasn't sure I'd make it out. But by the grace of God, sheer determination and the support of this board, I can now say the sun is shining once again.


Mickey, maybe see a T. Certainly cannot hurt. Regarding the hormone unbalance, you don't have to be 50 to have your hormones outta whack! ;-) The stress your body is experiencing can really do a number on you. Especially your Cortisol levels. Please take uber care of yourself. Baby and pamper yourself - you deserve it right now.