Ended my Affair

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Registered: 12-12-2010
Ended my Affair
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Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:09pm
Thanks to all of you who responded to my original post and to those who private messaged me.

This morning, I sent a message to my ex to let him know that I have had a WTF moment and realized that I've been behaving selfishly and immaturely. I told him that I was ending it. Furthermore, i told him we were in fantasy land and both know that even if it weren't for my husband and son, it wouldn't have worked.

I have cried my eyes out over this, but I will survive. And i totally will be hanging out here with you guys for a while.

Thanks again. I sincerely appreciate it!
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Registered: 12-12-2010
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:18pm
Nice... Ex just responded to my message and said he was thinking the same thing and was glad we're in agreement. Signed it friends forever. What a jackass.

Now to figure out how I'm going to get over what I've done to my family.... *sigh*
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Registered: 07-21-2009
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:20pm

That is wonderful news!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-21-2009
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:23pm

I saw your second post after I posted.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2010
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:24pm

Hi Sweetie and (((Welcome))) to your new life and your new family.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:24pm

Dear Megan,

I was just reading the rest of the responses to your other thread and kept thinking, where is she? Gosh, I hope she chimes in and lets us know how she felt about everything that was said. .....

AND HERE YOU ARE! You have ended it, and I can't tell you how much respect I have for you right now because I know that wasn't an easy thing to do, but yay for you, honey. You just spared yourself months of pain by cutting it off now. I know you are hurting and that goes with the territory, but after a couple of weeks you are going to be so proud of yourself for calling the shots. When we are the "Enders," we spare ourselves that painful rejection that comes when they pull the rug out. We also regain control again, something we lose while in an A.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:36pm

Megan,

I'm so proud of you. Now that you've both had your say, take the added precaution by blocking him. Heartache is right: when he needs another ego stroke, he is likely to contact you again. This is an entirely selfish man who thought nothing of pursuing a married

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 1:42pm
Ok, he replied. I am sure you were sitting there waiting for one. No more, okay? Block that email server NOW. Spare yourself any further chance of getting a more nastier email once his ego starts throbbing, or from YOU doing any further damage by contacting him. I know this sounds rather harsh, but it's what people do when they break up/end relationships. We used to be able to just hang up the phone...now we have to block txt msgs and email addys. BUT...read the tips for NO CONTACT in the Healing Library. There are a ton more rules to follow, so this is just the tip of the iceberg. ;-)

Block and walk, sweetie. Do it for your own peace of mind.
(((Hugs)))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 10-19-2010
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 5:26pm

Megan,

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2010
Tue, 12-14-2010 - 7:08pm

Hi Megan,

Hope you are doing ok with your NC and know you have made the greatest decision for both you and your family.