Ended things with MM

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Registered: 08-02-2006
Ended things with MM
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Sun, 09-20-2009 - 9:18pm

After a couple weeks away from MM and much thought, I decided to end things.

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:31am

Welcome Lifeafter33!


Our lives seem to parallel in many ways except I'm much older.


As I read your post, the part that jumped out at me was he and you discussing him leaving his W.

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 03-08-2009
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:45am

Hi Lifeafter, welcome to endings, I agree you did the smartest thing to end your A as you rightly say A's are destructive. No doubt you will miss xMM (and the addiction of the A) however if you can go completely NC (no contact) it will help you let go more quickly.

Wishing you luck and happiness for the future.

Roxy




Edited 9/21/2009 10:23 am ET by roxygirl2009
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Registered: 05-30-2006
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:11am

LA33,


Good for you in ending this destructive/addictive cycle. It will never be more than stolen moments and pillow talk. Anything said during intimacy is done so in the heat of the moment and

Messenger

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-02-2006
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 7:24pm
Thanks everyone for posting!
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 12:20am
I hear you Lady....sadly.
Onward and upward.
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 09-25-2009 - 7:44am

good for you and welcome to this board. welcome. welcome. welcome.


if you have read the HL here you have already seen the same tried and true old excuses and behaviors.ie: you go all out thinking about making everything perfect and special. mm's love it. mm's eat it up. then: they usually pick just this moment to give some spewage sewage about 'recommittment to their w's" , 'just being together, 'being with you is special' 'i cant lose you' i cant leave the w/m: because of kids, money, custody, etc etc (btw: we are sadder and wiser when a d day hits and those words become a truism as the previously professiing of love xmm suddenly becomes quite viscious and throws his 'best friend' under the proverbial bus (see d-day thread, below)


my friend, good for y9ou for realizing it's a one way street to nowhere


and welcome


ls

CL-Lovely Starr


"No memory of having starred; atones for later disregard; or keeps the end from being hard."

CL-Lovely Starr

"No memory of having starred; atones for later disregard; or keeps the end from being h