Ending A due to pregnancy - need support

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Ending A due to pregnancy - need support
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 12:22pm
Hello. Like others, I am new to this board and am slowly switching over from the My Affair support board. I am married and have only just started an A with a single co-worker about 6 weeks ago. We have not had IC as we wanted to take it slow, but the emotional connection (and other physical stuff) has been amazing. We talk about everything and it makes me feel so good to be with him. I was doing okay with this and feeling not so guilty, HOWEVER - I found out that I am pregnant (not a total surprise) and now that that's beginning to sink in, I feel funny about continuing the A. I immediately knew that I did not want to have IC with my OM while pregnant (which kinda made me sad since I know it would be wonderful), but at first I thought we could still have some fun until I started to show or something. But now that I am beginning to "feel" more pregnant, I feel like it is a sort of betrayal to my baby to be with someone else, and it makes me feel much more guilty about cheating on my H, who is a loving and attentive partner. I know that ending the A is the right thing to do, and I am pretty sure than OM and I will remain friends, but I could use some support since ending it is not really something I am emotionally ready for.

Any support or similar stories and outcomes would be appreciated.

Thanks!

-JAG