Epiphany #2

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Registered: 01-31-2011
Epiphany #2
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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 5:15pm

After writing my reply to 'brokenconfused' I had this epiphany that I really wasn't following my own advice.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 6:06pm

NSN,

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Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 09-28-2010
Wed, 02-23-2011 - 6:20pm

Oh my, I am so impressed. YES - you are so well on your way I am just amazed.

With each word of your post I was nodding my head.

IT IS SO FREEING once we realize the power we had, how we used it ... it shifts the focus squarely onto ourselves and that is such a great thing.

When we recognize our own strength, we can no longer be immobalized with victim thinking.

We can come to embrace our choices, and make different ones - realizing that our lives are no longer contingent on the meeting the needs of anyone but ourselves.

As long as we see ourselves as the victim, we won't be able to seize our personal power - instead our choices and attitudes will reflect the unwillingness to put in the time and energy into taking responsibility for our own well-being.

As a consequence it will always be someone else's fault for our unhappiness - husband, affair partner, children ... and we will always feel "IF ONLY THEY ..."

The anger comes NOT from what our xAPs did or did not do to/with/for us, but outta frustration, disappointment and fear that we ourselves ALLOWED this treatment. As the old saying goes - we teach people how to treat us.

HUGE (HUGS)

TU.