Eternaloptomist is a VET!

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Eternaloptomist is a VET!
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Thu, 10-25-2012 - 4:53pm

I tried to post this this morning, but I got the boot!  

Congratulations, EO!  You are a full-fledged Veteran.  One year NC...one year affair-free!  We haven't seen you around for a while, so I hope that means you are out living large.  I certainly hope you can find you way here, through all the rubble from the ivillage implosion, and tell us how you are doing and feeling...one year out.

So, if all goes well and the link makes it here, there's a Vet medal inside.  Envision me putting it around your neck and giving you a kiss on both cheeks.

Hope all is well.

((hugs))

Clarity

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Registered: 04-23-2010
Thu, 10-25-2012 - 6:34pm

I am happy to welcome you to Vetville.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Thu, 10-25-2012 - 9:28pm

#2, according to the time stamp.

:)

Kim

    

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 10-25-2012 - 10:07pm

Hey everyone...EO PM'd to ask me to copy and paste her message here.  Her issue falls under the rubble category of can't post.  This is her message to us.

thank you so much for my message. i really had honestly forgotten and by chance logged on to see the most amazing message. i am having trouble posting on the board to reply! i will try again later but if i have no joy, could you please post the follwoing for me? thanks clarity, you're the best. how are you doing? hope all is well in your world! you rock Oh my! I can't believe it! Thanks Clarity and RBM (I see that you've replied but I can't see your message!) I haven't been here in a good while and it's all changed! Firstly, can I just say I'm sorry for the radio silence the last few months and want to give you an update on my situtation... I had forgotten today was 1 year. I haven't logged in for months! Randomly, tonight I thought I would just tap in and see and there it was, the Vetinary award courtesy of Clarity! Spooky huh?! Must be a sign!! So, an update on me for those of you who are interested... I am pleased to see I am in happy, solid and fulfilling relationship with a wonderful, and most importantly, AVAILABLE man!!! We have a hopeful future together and are very much in love. Yes, I can't quite believe my luck and turn of events a year out of the A fog! And boy was it a fog! I can see that so clearly now. I still work with XAP and it doesn't bother me at all. We are able to be professional and I have no longing or loving feelings toward him anymore. I have no doubt the new man in my life has helped loads as a distraction but I now know, being with him only goes to prove how wrong for me XAP was. So, my life is good. I'm happy and very content. I'm still in T but will be ending that soon as I feel equipped enough with skills to help me avoid the pitfalls and traps I have had in the past and I am much more self-aware of my actions, feelings and choices. I have learnt so much in the last year about myself and what I need in life. I would never have come this far to the other end without the support of this board, therapy, family, friends and my wonderful man. When me and my man hit a bump in our relationship, I have never and will never reach out to XAP, despite initial temptation. Instead we work together to resolve it and we're stronger as a result. He knows about the A (not the details) and accepts it. I also accept it and see it for what it was and have stopped beating myself up about it. I understand better the things that led me to make some bad decisions and can now spot them a mile off! To each and everyone of you, may I say congratultions for being on this board. It's a big and significant step. I am proof there is light at the end of the tunnel. I promise! Love to all of you on your journey. Keep the faith and don't understimate the power of this wonderful, supportive community we have here. I will visit more frequently I promise. Have been busy courting, buying a house and focusing on a new role at work sorry! Love and hugs EO


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Registered: 06-24-2011
Fri, 10-26-2012 - 4:43pm
EO, I am glad things are going so well for you my friend. Congratualtions on making it to Vetville!