Ever wish you could just take it back?

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Ever wish you could just take it back?
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Sat, 12-18-2004 - 4:51pm

I've read through these threads and seen a lot of "Wish I hadn't sent that email" posts.

A friend on another board recommended this to me...

pointofmail.com

Free download for like 3 weeks, then its pretty cheap afterwards..

BUT here's the cool thing, once you send an email, you can
-See when they read it and how many times
-EDIT the email, taking out embarrassing words or phrases you have thought better of sending
-DELETE the email. It will still show that you sent them an email, but all they will see in the body is "This email has been deleted".

Just a thought for you guys... Good luck in staying strong in ending your affairs!

Hope you all find the happiness you deserve!!

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Registered: 08-31-2003
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 5:21pm
Hmmmm, I seriously doubt if I would ever need this program. I wouldn't want to take back because I wrote what I truly felt. The effect of said or written words cannot be taken back even if the words can be taken back. If I say something its usually heartfelt so its there for him for always. I wouldn't want to take away as it was said or written unconditionally - without expecting anything in return. Taking a good and happy letter is similiar to taking away a kid's toy from Santa. And taking away angry emails say doesn't take away the effect of writing to the other person. JMHO
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Sat, 12-18-2004 - 5:36pm

I understand what you're saying Opal...

There was another poster who said "I inadvertantly wrote.. yadda yadda yadda... then when I re-read it I saw what I had written so I had to write back to explain what I meant.."

For someone trying desperately to maintain NC, it might be easier for them to just go to that original email, delete any inappropriate statements and go on with their lives knowing whatever their mistake won't ever be read or misinterpreted and that might be helpful to someone.

Thanks for your input!

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 5:47pm

Hiya SB,

Seems like a pretty wishy-washy programme to me. I mean, if I'm gonna write it & send it, I'm going to stand by it.

Of course, since I choose not to write it let alone send it, I don't have much need for the programme, but others might. ;)

Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 6:17pm
I need a program like this for my mouth...not my emails.
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Sat, 12-18-2004 - 6:19pm

Posie,
It is technologically advanced passive agressivness at its best, don't you think?

"P#ss off you evil w@nker" quickly turns into "Don't forget we have a board meeting at 7am."

I use it for the read reciept feature, so that I can be sure all my emails are going through properly, and its less intrusive than "THIS USER HAS REQUESTED A READ RECEIPT..."

I hate those things ;)

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 7:02pm

Sunshine,

I know exactly what you mean and how useful this could be. More than I care to say, I have written an email to xMW, a friend, or a relative after having a few too many glasses of wine. What I thought was chit-chat or banter, was an email with the F word used as the primary adjective too often when I read it in the IN BOX the next morning; or, what I thought was a firm "setting of boundaries," sounded like a pissy, angry a** chewing. I've often wished I could recall sent emails--I've regretted sending a few over the years.

Thanks for the info. I'll probably never look into the web site, however, because I'm not all that tech savvy, and then I figure by the time morning rolls around, it's been read anyway.

Thx again,
-LG

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 7:20pm

Hiya SB,

<<>>

I'm not sure about "best," but yes it is certainly passive aggressive. My brother is a programmer with a professional interest in rather less salubrious programmes. I leave all that good stuff to him. on bro's recommendation, I do run a rather nifty firewall & several independent antivirus & spybot programmes. I update them and trust them to do whatever he says they're supposed to be doing and have never had any pc cooties, but he77, I'm so used to proofreading my own stuff as well as lengthy legal documentation that I seldom if ever even use a spell checker...

<<I hate those things ;)>>>

Refreshingly honest & lacking in any passive aggression, though, aren't they... ;)

Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie

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Registered: 12-05-2004
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 7:29pm
Hi Posie.. I'm confused... are you saying its dishonest of me to know when my email's sent without a pop up message?

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Registered: 08-21-2003
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 10:08pm

`Posie,

Ask your brother how it is possible to retract or edit an email across different email systems. This boggles my mind. It doesn't seem technically feasible!

I am familiar with message retraction within a single email system (e.g., my work email). The email can be retracted BEFORE someone opens it, but once it is opened you cannot do a thing with it anymore.

Anyway, once a person gets the message, what is to stop them from forwarding it to a different account or copying and pasting the text into a document -- I would think that this is out of the control of this pointofmail service.

The bottom line is, never send anything that you're not sure of ... SLEEP ON IT first ... edit it ... sleep on it again .... repeat until you are certain you won't regret the words. :)

~cherishing

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 11:08pm

Hiya SB,

<<>>

Not at all. I just don't see an advantage. Why wouldn't you want an email recipient to know whether or not you are aware of date & time or if & when they've read your email?

My email receipt pop-up's are there generally for legal purposes within the context of my job as a paralegal.

Wishing you strength & peace,
Posie

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