exMM contacted after I told my husband

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exMM contacted after I told my husband
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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 6:04pm

I forgot to mention this in my last night's posting...perhaps, I did not think it was so relevant. But I have been thinking about it...

ExMM responded to my e-mail (later in the evening) when I told him that my H is now aware of our past relationship. Through that e-mail, I sensed he was...let's see...SHOCKED. Months prior (around March '04) he was expressing annoyance and anger that I was NOT budging from the marriage (did not file or making preprations to "leave"), he always felt I was "playing" him, having my cake and eat it. He was not pushing me to leave the marriage for him...but more to leave because the marriage was not working out for me. A few months after that he refused to deal with me unless I was "serious."

Now months later, after he has been out of the picture.....I can sense he is wondering why I did not leave earlier...was it because I never felt that strongly enough for him to force changes in my life, to make the necessary sacrifice of "us" (exMM and I) to become a reality? Or why wasn't I motivated enough to "leave" if exMM was in the picture? Or, at the end of the day, was I (on a subconscious level) trying to push exMM out of my life before I felt it was safe, the "coast is clear" to leave the marriage?

In that e-mail, he responds he does not have the fortitude to tell his wife, remarked I was brave enough to notify H. Then he mentioned I must really care about my husband to apprise him of my past indiscretion. People, what did exMM mean when he mentioned that?

I responded to his e-mail by telling him I would always protect him (his privacy) and of course, through its subtle message, that I wanted nothing to do with him...that I plan on moving forward to find what will make ME happy. Byebye exMM, memories of lies/deceits...off to a whole new fresh start!

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Mon, 11-22-2004 - 8:02pm

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"Then he mentioned I must really care about my husband to apprise him of my past indiscretion."

Good question, Maybe he was saying he understands that he (XMM) is out of the picture, but I think he really wants to keep out of the picture, and his statement is intended to allow "HIM" a quick and quiet exit out of harms way (so your hubby does not have a chat with his wife).

Running like a Rabbit.

JMHO
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