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extremely slow process.............
| Sat, 08-29-2009 - 9:44am |
hello everyone,
It's been a bit since I posted or even read any of the posts here....I have alot of catching up to do.

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I forgot to say that emotionally this is taking a toll on me!
ilori~
Your Xmm sounds very much like mine. I have worked with him for just over 20 years and we started
Iddy
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I am in a very similar situation as you are - I too have ended my A with my boss/exMM and things were good and calm for a few months, but he has started pursuing me again and it is becoming uncomfortable in the office. I draw lots of strength and wisdom from Iddy's advice on these Boards which has helped me a great deal to stay strong and composed in the office.
Ilori I am rooting for you to stand firm in rebuffing his advances, act indifference and do not let him see how you feel about him. Somebody said here recently - FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT. Yes we all "fell in love" with our exMM, but to them it is just an "irrelevant conquest" and an ego boost. Diligently guard against any weak moments because these exMM know how to use words when it suits them.
I have been on holidays and have not seen xMM for two weeks now, although he keeps sending me "work related" emails. I go back to work on Monday and I am already in knots - but I am determined to not let my emotions rule me and put up a professional front as best as I could. So here's good luck to you and me, and especially Iddy. Gullable.
Hi Izzy
I just started LC/NC with xMM ( my current boss). I feel your pain but my boss is not in the same city let alone the same office. I cant imagine being the same room with him on a daily basis. I used to lose it when we split apart after being together for a week. I will have to face him (and his wife) in a month and not looking foward to it.
What really came screaming out at me about your situation is why are you not really really angry with him? How is that not helping you set your boundaries or even stop you from looking at his face?
He drops you like a wet disgusting
Hello iddy,
Thank you so much for your post!!!
gullable,
Thanks for your post.....I have found help in your post before as well as this recent reply.
Hi Awakening,
Thank you for your post!
ilori,
Thanks for responding to my diatribe. ;-) I wondered where you disappeared to and I thought maybe I had caused you more harm than good.
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Iddy
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iddy,
You have no idea how much these words mirror my feelings..........
you know that it's going to different now and
yes, i had to work with my xap after d-day. a d-day where he threw me personally and professionally under the bus. and i had to grin and bear it and carry on while internally i was a mess and i well remember wrestling with the unknown me that stared sadly back from the cracked RL mirror.
i wondered where you were- and i hoped for the best for you. i so understand what you are going through right now.
but, it can be done. under the worst of circumstances, working can be done with a lot of work- the hardest sort of work aside from the work we have to do for ourselves to heal.
i know it's easier said than done, but there are threads about LC/working wiht them.
CL-Lovely Starr
"No memory of having starred; atones for later disregard; or keeps the end from being h
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