facebook makes it harder

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Registered: 02-06-2010
facebook makes it harder
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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 3:18am

i have been stalking my former ap's wife and family for the past two hours on fb. it's not my fault

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal

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Registered: 03-17-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 4:28am

Marie Marie Marie,


i am soooo pathetic right now!!! < yes you are but only

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Registered: 02-25-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 5:01am

M-M-M !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Please do not torture yourself like that.... fb is the devil incarnate and you are only causing yourself more pain ,,,remember NC=no new hurts and YOU are hurting yourself..... technically

New Choices, New Chapter,


New Challenges,

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Registered: 07-29-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 6:49am

I know what you are going through because I have done things like that too.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 11:07am

STAY OFF FB!! Stay off, cancel your account, do whatever it takes. BUT STAY OFF! U r only hurting yourself. Really. You are not following NC and are setting yourself back everytime you look at that page.
We have all done it in some way or another. But now you are done, you have to stop. I can not tell you enough how much you are hindering your own progress. This is about getting your self control private. Just because her page is not private does not mean you should be looking....and perhaps she knows you will be so she does it for that reason. Or who knows? She may not even be thinking about you at all. She just may have her page open so that others may find her and see her and her fam, perhaps she likes reconnecting with others and so on...

You have to focus on you and not worry about her. She and he and their lives are no concern of yours. Their lives were never meant for your business. I am not trying to hurt you. I am trying to make you realize that you have to let em go, let em all just go. It's really in your best interests. 4 months is a long time, but what are you missing? Really missing? Being second? Settling for crumbs? You are never likely going to have a fb page with him and pics, that is their lives, not yours, it never was yours, neither was he. Use these 4 months to learn that you can distance yourself and start NC...REAL NC!

If you are strong enought to stay away for 4 months, you are strong enough stop the FB nonsense, You dictate your actions, control those impulses just like you control not sending a txt, email or making a call. You can do this and you need to or you will continue to hurt.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 10-03-2007
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 12:32pm

This is interesting,LOL !!

On MAS you have said that you have broken up with AP #1 and your AP#2,the current one,is great.So on EAS you have come for support to get over AP#1?lol ! When you have a new AP ,it should be easy to forget AP#1.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 12:36pm


Enders,
Hitting this one fast and hard because I might be the first tweener to get here and I don't want to wait until this spins out of control before addressing it.

Do NOT respond to this thread, Heissick or Marie3, in any way, shape or form until we hear from Iddy. Got that?

Please respect the peace and productivity of this board by NOT engaging this situation until we have some guidance from the Vets, and hopefully Iddy soon, should she see choose to address it.

Dee.

Edited 8/12/2010 12:41 pm ET by deeulta




Edited 8/12/2010 12:50 pm ET by deeulta
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 12:51pm

Marie -

I don't want to take on the role of EAS patrol, but I just looked at the MAS board. And you wrote this morning that you and AP are "taking the month of August off". Dee wrote a post a little while ago about not cheating on the EAS board. It's very important to the people here trying to really end their affairs that you are honestly ending your A. Lellibee is a good example. I noticed that she posted "Time to go". She told everyone on MAS that she was moving over here. Marie, you are going to get different and conflicting advice being on both boards. Please decide what is best for you and stick to it.

With respect,
Bodhi

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 1:05pm

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 2:06pm
See, I am really going to lose it...thanks Dee for the heads up. I posted just before your post. I am not going to invest my time and energy...well let me shut up before I start to act a fool. Thanks Dee.
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 4:35pm

If anyone wants to discuss their feelings re: this situation OFF BOARD, please feel free to email me through my profile.

Dee

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