facebook makes it harder

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facebook makes it harder
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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 3:18am

i have been stalking my former ap's wife and family for the past two hours on fb. it's not my fault

when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 5:33pm

Iddy -

I was wondering if the CL over at MAS should post something reminding her people of the rules and also say that unless they are ending their A, they should only post on MAS? Just a thought.

Bodhi

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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 12:50am
i did not think about using fb as a tactic to break NC. technically i have not had contact with him directly at all. just viewing his families' pages to see what he has been up to in his new life, new state, new career. but u r right, i am slowly torturing myself, and why would i do that? it was over months ago, it was just a long painful drawn out good bye....until he actually moved away...
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 12:56am
thanks for the advice! i did pick up a book titled, something like: "how to break your addiction to a person" last year, and i read it two times and i've recently read "the sociopath next door".
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 1:03am
yes, it is interesting isn't it? one might think that a replacement/rebound situation might be a good anecdote; however.... it hasn't really happend that way. i mean, i could be self-medicating with food, alcohol, drugs, or porn but i have not chosen those vices. i chose an available excellent opportunity. wierd..... i know it.
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Fri, 08-13-2010 - 7:55am

hi marie :) Before I start I am not judging you or your actions. We

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Mon, 08-16-2010 - 11:56am

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Tue, 08-17-2010 - 3:38pm
No contact means no contact, and that includes Facebook stalking. Maybe the reason it is so hard for you is because you have not truly let it go. Facebook may make it harder, but only if you persist in following his life vicariously through his wife. If you truly want to get past all of this stop looking at it. You are the only one that can do this for yourself.
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Wed, 08-18-2010 - 4:55pm
you are completely correct. and since reading many of the same sentiments here last week, i have not peeked on FB for his stuff not once. i am soooo proud of myself. on the other hand, he just sent me an email note yesterday telling me he remembers me fondly from the other side of the mississippi. oh dear..... i will need more strength. more than i have right now. thanks again. i appreciate your insight!
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal

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