facebook...any suggestions?

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Registered: 01-10-2010
facebook...any suggestions?
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Sun, 01-10-2010 - 11:56am

I've been lurking on this site for a year.

Imustenjoypain!

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 12:02pm

Hi and welcome.


I am very new to the whole FB thing. So I can only offer limited advice. If you do not want to unfriend him, then just ignore him. Perhaps wean yourself off FB and find other avenues of contacting friends in real life.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2009
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 12:03pm

Delete him.


Your mutual FB friend's suspicions matter far less than getting your life and

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Registered: 12-04-2009
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 2:20pm
Delete him. I know I had to just for the reason that seeing his updates were making me go crazy. I deleted him 7 months ago. Mind you in that 7 months we still broke NC and got together. But it is done now. But my point is it really doesnt help having a tie to him of any kind. It will only hurt you more unless you can handle it. But in my case I just couldnt bare seeing his pictures etc.
Time heals all wounds, unless you pick at them.
--Shawn Alexander
Time heals all wounds, unless you pick at them. --Shawn Alexander
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Registered: 08-28-2004
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 4:29pm

Hi


Welcome to the board. I would definitely delete him. Dont worry about what the others might say. Maybe they wont even notice. Do this for your own sanity. You must come first right now. That's what i have to tell myself almost everyday.

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Registered: 03-03-2005
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 4:34pm
Delete him....today.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2009
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 5:28pm

I'm with everyone else. Delete him. If you want to end your A, which it sounds like you do because you have been lurking on this site, then you need to start somewhere. I understand how you feel about raising suspicion. If you have been involved in an A then you probably have experience making excuses for many situations. If suspicion arises, you will find a way to get through it.

Please keep communicating with us. I have received so much help from others like me. We will help you through this!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2009
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 5:30pm

If you're truly ready to end it, then I say BLOCK him. You do this through your privacy settings. What this does is remove all evidence of you across FB to him only as well as the reverse...you will no longer see ANYTHING he writes, posts, etc. It's as if he no longer exists. This will not affect your mutual friends in any way. Last I knew, you will have to do this first because if he blocks you, you will have to contact Facebook to have him blocked (since he no longer exists to you on FB). I had to do this with "someone" so I know.

If you have any questions, contact me and I'll try to help.

ND4MLK

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-04-2009
Sun, 01-10-2010 - 5:56pm
LOL Sienna like your comment short and sweet :)Time heals all wounds, unless you pick at them.
--Shawn Alexander


Edited 1/10/2010 6:20 pm ET by i_believe_in_myself
Time heals all wounds, unless you pick at them. --Shawn Alexander
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Registered: 12-31-2009
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 2:42am
Block him.
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Registered: 01-10-2010
Mon, 01-11-2010 - 11:43am

I can't tell you how much it means to have so many supportive people in my corner.....I feel so much better knowing I have people who are in this too and struggling.

Imustenjoypain!

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