Fantasy v. Reality-- for Lillie
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Fantasy v. Reality-- for Lillie
| Wed, 10-13-2010 - 5:19pm |
Last week Lillie posted on another thread her fantasy vs. Reality list. It was very helpful so I'm copying Lillies post in to this thread and adding to it!
Fantasy: Available and open to me
Reality: Married to BS. He is BS's lying, cheating husband.
Fantasy: Valued and appreciated me for who I am as a person,
Fantasy: Available and open to me
Reality: Married to BS. He is BS's lying, cheating husband.
Fantasy: Valued and appreciated me for who I am as a person,

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reality - when i took an honest look at who I was, who I had become, and my behaviours, there was nothing 'perfect' about those moments. Things would change because they needed to, because I wanted them to, and because nothing stays the same, nor should they.
I'm being lazy, but it was good to go back and read my original fantasy vs. reality post to remind myself of what really IS - thank you :) What is so amazing is that I wrote the "my feelings are all over the place" back then. I'm happy to say that they aren't any more. I'm still glad I'm here and I still will never compromise what I deserve ever again.
July 28, 2010
Fantasy: Single
Reality: Married
Fantasy: Kind, caring and selfless
Reality: Mean, cold and selfish
Fantasy: Healthy and nurturing
Reality: Unhealthy, toxic and controlling
Fantasy: Always there for me
Reality: Never there for me
Fantasy: Puts me first
Reality: Put me after family, work, golf...
Fantasy: Spends all his time with me
Reality: Squeezed me in, when it suited him
Fantasy: Tells the world about our relationship
Reality: Hidden in the darkness, no one knows
Fantasy: Good looking and fit
Reality: Looks old and tired, gained 40 lbs.
Fantasy: Treats me like a queen
Reality: Treated me horribly
Fantasy: Fulfilling intimate life
Reality: Sex on the floor, when it suited him
Fantasy: Wonderful communication
Reality: No communication
Fantasy: Makes me feel good about life and myself
Reality: Made me feel lower than I've ever felt
Fantasy: We live happily ever after
Reality: Everything I thought I had with XAP was a fantasy.
How I let myself be fooled for so long, I don't know. I guess I can survive a long time on crumbs. My feelings are all over the place, but I'm really glad I'm here. I'm not compromising what I want and deserve ever again.
Bodhi
YAAAAAYYYYYYYY Chechi!
Fantasy- he was really good in bed.
Reality- he was really good in bed...
But it wasn't worth BS that came with it.
OH boy! I think I need to do this exercise myself!
Reality:
Fantasy - that I could manage a double life without stealing time, energy, focus away from my beloved family.
Reality - they suffered the loss of my attention horribly.
Holy Cr@p, Dee---you've got "Vet" written all over you. I am humbled by your scathing insight. Wow. Just wow.
Lillie
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