Feelin Grt! But still so much work 2 do

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Feelin Grt! But still so much work 2 do
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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 4:57pm

Spartans,


I mean army. I mean EASer's. I mean my girls.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 6:04pm

Luvin,
OMG, I LOVED reading your post! It just goes to show that all this hard work we're doing is not just to get over that damn JAM. The ripples of self improvement will reach every aspect of our lives for its betterment. You are living, posting proof!

Rock on, Grrrfriend!
Dee

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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 6:05pm

Thanks for this post, Luvin!

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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 6:40pm

Dear Luvin,

Oh how I loved this post. I was sitting here smiling and crying at the same time. You are such an inspiration to me. I find your humor infectious, and makes me laugh out loud. I so related to the things you shared. I was a hot mess too before, during and (for just a bit) after my A. I grew up with trauma, and I then went on to invite it on in. "Heck, I'm doing okay - so let's invite some crazy in to make your life exciting"

I loved to be loved. And that meant I would take it from anyone. And I never left anyone, well unless someone else came along singing a fancier tune. I've gone from partner to partner since grade 2 - yup, not one day without being partnered!!! Until now. And I feel like a flower blooming. I can take out my garbage on my own and love it. I love what it represents ... to me and my children. I love my relationship with my H even though he doesn't live here. Because I feel healthier. I don't feel (so) co-dependent. I feel like I am setting boundaries and sticking with them. This is NOT something I am familiar with doing. Not in any aspect of my life. I was too afraid of what others might think - or worse yet - what leaving me meant. Gosh - that had to feel good (although tough in the moment), when you realized - gosh darn-it, I am going to walk away from this with my head held high! ... I am going to do this for me - not for him. Wow, Luvin, I am impressed.

Thank you for sharing,

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010
LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 8:21pm

TU,


Dee said I am the walking posting living proof of self improvement. Thanks Dee.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Fri, 05-07-2010 - 9:11pm

Hi ladies


This post was amazingly uplifting! It is OK to be alone and strong.


I have been out of my M for 2 1/2 years but just recently out of my A. I spent many lonely nights when I was in the A so what's difference if

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Sat, 05-08-2010 - 9:36am

Luvin,
you are a ray of sunshine. i think we are all "poster children" on a journey. your success is my hope.
miles of smiles here.

lillie

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 9:09am

Ah Luvin-


I love this post. I can relate to it so well. I have turned a corner too- can feel myself feeling happy a majority of the day. And though I am not grateful for the A, I am reveling in all of the self improvement I have undergone since it ended. Cheers to you :)


Hugs,


Jane
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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 11:22am

Happy to see that you have turned a corner. Truly am. Oh and I want to make clear, I am not grateful for the A...that was a bout with the closest thing to hell on earth. Just taking the good that it has taught me. It has made me do a lot of self examination. I am better because of it. Not all the where I need to be, but well on my way. Not that you implied otherwise, just wanted to be clear that I much rather have gotten my act together another route. But if this is what it took, so be it. A's bleed the life out of us. Snuff us out. But we are making it and that is the point of this thread.

Other things will come to us, Even when we are well out of the A. Its how we handle those things and how we feel about ourselves after that will show us how much we value ourselves and our families. I had to make a decision that unselfish and healthy and two years ago, I would have made the wrong one, the one that would probably hurt me and although not easy, I did what was right and what I had to without compromising myself. I am proud of that fact. That is big for me.

Happy you are well.

Luvin

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 10:10pm

I love u luv, hahaha and all of us here

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 11:43pm

Thanks LIW,

We will be amazing posters and we will laugh at our silly foolish selves from years past. I hope to be a hybrid of E-1 and Iddy. Oh and a li Clarity- she is a vet I miss a so much, a big bunch, she was great. No nonsense. I mean she would call it cold. She was tough love something awful. Read her posts, she will make you laugh, and she is raw and fun. Oh do I miss Clarity. She may be gone, but her posts are still here for you to read. Please LIW, stay a while. Thanks for your response,

Luvin

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida