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| Tue, 03-02-2004 - 11:09am |
I'm sure I'll have a relapse at some point, but I'm feeling pretty good today. OM actually broke NC and sent me a couple of e-mails. I read them, but did not respond. I'm realizing that our affair had less to do with my love for him, than an escape from my marriage that made me feel good, and was a lot of fun. Now, I need to work on my marriage or realise that it can't be saved and move on. In any case, I know that stopping the affair was the right thing to do, no matter how much it hurt.

Relapse is a choice. By YOU.
Do you really want the drama and grief of the affair? Then by all means choose relapse.
If you want a whole life, above board, without any more lies to make tiem for someone else in your life, then I think there is no way you can choose "relapse".
It's your choice.
Choose the life you want, step into it and live it.
I hope you don't choose relapse.
jmhmoo (Just My Humble Male Outspoken Opinion),
cl-nre
The less you have to do OM more your thinking will clear up and your life decisions will get better.
You'll have your ups and downs like the rest of us but if you stay NC in 3-4 weeks it will get a lot easier.
F
Thanks also for your advice. I actually went to look at an apartment this afternoon. My H and I are going to try a trial separation. We're still going to counseling, and will go out on "dates". But, I need some space to see if I really miss him, and miss our life together. Or, if we're really just good friends, and I need something more.
I think it will be pretty lonely, and I'm sure it will be hard to keep NC with OM, but I'm determined. I want to make this decision with a clear head.
Wish me luck.
i am glad that you are feeling better. It takes alot of guts to move out and do what you are doing.
Just curious as to what your therapist is suggesting when the two of you go to therapy...has the therapist helped/offered suggestions?
take care of yourself and your daughter during this stressful time.
Jazzdiva
We're going to an intensive, 3 day relationship retreat this weekend. I'll let you all know how it goes. In regards to NC, OM broke it several times with e-mail, but I have not replied. So hard! He keeps saying how much he loves me and wants to marry me. But, this decision is too important, and I have too much invested in my marriage. I really want to make this decision with a clear head. Plus, I know that a real life with OM would probably never work out, and I would wind up alone.