Feeling discouraged;hard day

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Registered: 05-26-2010
Feeling discouraged;hard day
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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 4:48pm

I’m having a very hard day today; it has been 8 weeks LC and I just feel very low, sad, angry and hurt. While these feelings come and go (I feel good and positive and strong on most days) but the lows are so very low and it just sucks.


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Registered: 12-31-2009
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 5:31pm

CG,


I am so sorry this is happening to you.

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Registered: 07-29-2010
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 6:59pm

CG


I am getting ready to go back to work after vacation next week...and not looking forward to it for these reasons.

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 2:05pm

Hi Crazygirl-

Ick. What a turd. He's acting like a child and you should just keep holding your head high. Don't stoop to his level. Don't let him see that it bothers you. He's nursing his wounded ego and acting out like a baby. Good grief. Grow up man. Be a man. I am sorry you have to go through this. I know it must be hard. And I know the lows suck. And I know what a killer LC is when you have to work with xap. I did for the first 3 months after ending my A and I hated it. I left my job to escape... a job I loved. It was the last thing I "gave" to him... but really it was a gift to myself. The gift of true freedom. If you have to stay at your workplace, CSN and Iddy are your role models. They do it everyday and have the strength of 1000 women to do so. But take it from them, it does get easier. You just stand your ground and you will make it.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 02-06-2010
Sun, 08-08-2010 - 1:45am
i'm sorry for you that it is difficult for you at work. stay strong, write in a journal, be thankful you have this board to vent/for support and just know that in a month, it will be less painful.. it just takes time to get there..... take good care!
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
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Registered: 01-23-2010
Sun, 08-08-2010 - 7:44am

He's treating you this way because he has no respect for you. Unfortunately I know all too well the feeling of being treated like a wh*re. When you think about it we acted like one and put ourselves into this role. But you have stopped your bad behavior and you deserve cudos for that. My xap treated me the same way and I found out later that he was mad at me for almost wrecking his M and that he couldn't believe that he almost lost his wonderful W over trash like me. Now that hurt but I did it to myself by sleeping with him knowing that he was M.


The other guy asking you where the pole is, was way out of line. You have to re-gain respect at your job by telling that guy and anyone else that their comments are sexual harrassment. You have to get tough. Stop telling yourself that these guys like you so much. Their comments are mean and cruel and inappropriate for the work place. Gain back your control and to h*ll with what your xap is thinking and whether he is mad at you. He is JAM and a low down cheating one at that.

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Registered: 05-26-2010
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 10:23am

Wow, thank you ALL so very much for your support, words of wisdom and encouragement! I honestly don't know what I'd do without you ALL.


Today is Monday, as we all know, another work day, another day of LC/NC and another day to stay strong and ya know what, I'm gonna.


After reading posts here and after re-thinking everything in my siutation I got to

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 10:33am

CG4S,


Your XAP has lost his cake, honey, and he is having a sugar hissy fit. Try to remember that this angst is all on him, and you aren't doing anything to cause him to act so childish. It just shows you how immature this dude really is.


Hang in there. He'll eventually tire of being an A$$, and if not, it's his health that will be affected more than yours; not to mention the nasty karma following him around.


((Hugs)))

   ~Iddy~