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| Fri, 06-25-2010 - 10:03pm |
Feeling the power of having the upper hand tonight NC only two days but he is trying to reach me.
| Fri, 06-25-2010 - 10:03pm |
Feeling the power of having the upper hand tonight NC only two days but he is trying to reach me.
Pennyme,
It *is* very empowering to take the upper hand, especially when they are fishing for a response. Does your XAP know you are done or are you going silent on him?
Just to let you know, the weekends are very quiet around here so please don't get discouraged if you don't see many posts the next two days. Just take this time to read everything you can. There is so much information, and you can always go back in time by searching through the archives. If a poster resonates with you, you can do an advanced search for all of their posts. It's also a good way to get familiar with who's who.
Hang in there, honey. You are doing the right thing even if at times it feels uncomfortable and just plain weird. An A is an addiction, and one that is very hard to break. We talk about NC a lot because IT WORKS even though there will be times when you are going through some painful withdrawals. Just remember that this is normal as you break a very abnormal behavioral pattern.
(((Hugs)))
~Iddy~
It is empowering- those first few days of NC, but I must warn you... that empowerment wanes as you start to miss him. Don't let your guard down, keep self protecting and reminding yourself that you are doing this for you. You can do this... and the reason I know is because I did and I thought I'd die with xap... I have not died, in fact, my life is more full and happy than it has ever been.
Hugs,
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/