Feeling lost and numb

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Registered: 05-20-2005
Feeling lost and numb
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 5:25am

Count me along with the rest of those people who can't cry.

I don't know what's wrong with me... I figure maybe I cried it all out during the relationship and there's nothing left?

For some reason, even though it's been six weeks, it seems almost harder now. Maybe it's finally sinking in that it's really over. I'm not sure. It's not that it doesn't hurt, because it still does. I guess I just wish it would feel better and I'd be better able to forget. As much as I try not to think of it, I always come back to this feeling.

I just hope it passes-- and soon!

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Registered: 03-29-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 9:27am
Yeah, I know what you are talking about. Lost and numb? Good discription of how I am feeling a lot of the time. I don't cry anymore either. I know that it is over and that it is for the best for everyone involved. I still talk to him once in a while and we are trying to be friends. I know from everyone that this is a bad idea, but I always did do everything the hard way. We have a very long history of friendship and it is hard to walk away from that. I know this is just going to prolong the healing, at least for me. It has been two months, a lot has happened, but I still think of him 24/7. I too just want this feeling to go away. I want the fantasy to go away, I am working on that. I hope for both of us that time will help. Good luck
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 7:52pm

TIME AND NO CONTACT are the best mix to heal, I would suggest that you forget the friendship thing it will just make it much hard to move on and heal.

Voluntary contact in my opinion is a really bad idea, a continued relationship with the XAP is blatantly disrespectful of your spouse marriage and family...considered from your husbands point of view.

SIX WEEKS REALLY IS NOT VERY LONG so give it time it will get better, expect to go through some rounds of withdrawl were you feel like crap for a few days before getting better.

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Edited 6/16/2005 7:54 pm ET ET by mfreenow