Feeling rattled....

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-28-2009
Feeling rattled....
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Tue, 09-22-2009 - 6:39am

I know I will get some tough love here and I know I need it.


I went NC with XMM and his DW without explanation. For a while all was good and then he started calling and inviting us here and there. Dh and I then accepted an invitation to join their family for a day at the local state park.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 8:16am

I apologize, I do not know your story.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2007
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 9:22am

I don't mean to hijack this thread but I have a question for you....


How long did it honestly take you to get to "neutral" with your xAP neighbor??


Is he at neutral as well? Are you friends with his wife now?


Just curious...I have been trying to be neutral friends with my X for a long time now.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-11-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 11:08am

Kristin


I say go with your instinct, sounds like nothing good can come of this.

 

              &n

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 11:49am

Offhand I'd say it took 3.5 years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 12:21pm

Kristin,


Go with your gut instinct, it's very seldom wrong.

Onward and upward.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 1:00pm

Kristin -


You asked for some tough love, and I usually am not the one to dish it out, but your post was more than a little alarming to me, and I felt that I had to respond.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2009
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 5:44pm

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH Brighterdays --- I was in an abusive relationship as a teen and can spot it from a million miles away.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-28-2009
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 3:46am

Thank you to everyone for the replies.


I can't believe that I am sitting here even typing all of this again. I thought I was over all of this and yet here I sit feeling just like I have so many times before. I know I was given instincts for a reason and it is time I started listening to them. My instinct is telling me that he is about to make his move and that when he does all Hell is going to break loose. I feel like this time is different. I don't think he thinks he has anything to lose this time. His DW already knows about the A and his

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 12:10pm

>>" Although I am wondering now if there really was ever NC because he informed me two days ago that he has always been close and that I don't realize just how many times he was there over the years."<<


YIKES!! That is so scary!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-06-2007
Wed, 09-23-2009 - 6:26pm

kristin,


Exactly what Vic said, YIKES !! He scares me and I hope he is scaring you.


Get the heck away from him - fast. If he is on some kind of meds and that helps, just think if he wasn't! Truly, nothing but trouble can come from continuing to try to forge a friendship with him. Back off.


I'm worried about your safety. I hope you take some measures to protect yourself.