Feeling rattled....
Find a Conversation
Feeling rattled....
| Tue, 09-22-2009 - 6:39am |
I know I will get some tough love here and I know I need it.
I went NC with XMM and his DW without explanation. For a while all was good and then he started calling and inviting us here and there. Dh and I then accepted an invitation to join their family for a day at the local state park.

I apologize, I do not know your story.
Comments and
I don't mean to hijack this thread but I have a question for you....
How long did it honestly take you to get to "neutral" with your xAP neighbor??
Is he at neutral as well? Are you friends with his wife now?
Just curious...I have been trying to be neutral friends with my X for a long time now.
Kristin
I say go with your instinct, sounds like nothing good can come of this.
Offhand I'd say it took 3.5 years.
Comments and
Kristin,
Go with your gut instinct, it's very seldom wrong.
Kristin -
You asked for some tough love, and I usually am not the one to dish it out, but your post was more than a little alarming to me, and I felt that I had to respond.
I TOTALLY AGREE WITH Brighterdays --- I was in an abusive relationship as a teen and can spot it from a million miles away.
Thank you to everyone for the replies.
I can't believe that I am sitting here even typing all of this again. I thought I was over all of this and yet here I sit feeling just like I have so many times before. I know I was given instincts for a reason and it is time I started listening to them. My instinct is telling me that he is about to make his move and that when he does all Hell is going to break loose. I feel like this time is different. I don't think he thinks he has anything to lose this time. His DW already knows about the A and his
>>" Although I am wondering now if there really was ever NC because he informed me two days ago that he has always been close and that I don't realize just how many times he was there over the years."<<
YIKES!! That is so scary!!!
Comments and
kristin,
Exactly what Vic said, YIKES !! He scares me and I hope he is scaring you.
Get the heck away from him - fast. If he is on some kind of meds and that helps, just think if he wasn't! Truly, nothing but trouble can come from continuing to try to forge a friendship with him. Back off.
I'm worried about your safety. I hope you take some measures to protect yourself.