Feeling Used? Help? Advice?
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| Fri, 01-28-2005 - 9:18pm |
I've been seeing a MM for four months. He actually moved out of their home and in with his mother about a month after we began seeing each other. Apparently his W told him to get out because they had been fighting so much. He has two teenagers. He told me the marriage has been bad for several years, and that he was sleeping in his own room for the last couple years.
Once his wife figured out she wouldn't be able to make it on her own financially, she wanted him back. So she has been begging him to return and doing everything in her power to persuade him, especially using the children.
He tells me he is no longer in love with her, but isn't sure what to do. I constantly hear how confused he is. How he doesn't know what to do or how he feels about her or me. That he feels guilty. They even have started to see a counselor, but he hasn't moved back.
Please tell me, do you think he is just using me? Are the things he is saying what some of these men say just to keep you around? I'm not sure if I'm feeling used and if I should confront him about this or not? I've also told him to go back and figure out what he's doing with his wife, but he tells me he doesn't want to lose me by going back? Help.

NYB
You know it does not matter what he is doing or way, what matters is to bring this to a conclusion one way or another ASAP before you invest anymore time or emotion in this "relationship".
Your best bet in my OPINION is to tell him NOT TO CALL YOU untill he has at least filed for divorce and has told his wife and FAMILY that the marriage is over PERIOD no going back ever.
Your best option is refuse to have any sort of a relationship with him tell he has put a divorce DECREE in your hand signed by the judge.
If you give him a soft place to land way should he bother making the changes he has to to be with you full time.
Either he chooses you or he chooses his wife one way or another you get a clear answer to his intentions and can act to protect yourself.
JMHO
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