Feels more like a stand off than NC

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Registered: 01-17-2010
Feels more like a stand off than NC
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Tue, 01-19-2010 - 12:48pm

Today I am on day 3 of NC.

myShadow (cuz surely this isn't the real me)

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Registered: 11-04-2009
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 2:26pm

Hang in there and HUGS to you. I know it does feel like a game of cat and mouse and who can hold out the longest on NC. Dont make anything about "him" make it all about YOU!!! Get your strength and direction and take it day by day.


For me, it was easier to delete him out of my life in every way, emails, texts, gifts, reminders in any way. I even found an old dollar bill that I kept tucked away from a movie that we went to and yesterday, I ripped it up and let if fly out the window. DAMN, that felt good.


Im new to this too but I am learning. Time and determination are key. Keep coming here and read all that you can.


Hugs,


GMLB

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 3:06pm

Well, MS, NC is just that, NC. If you have blocked all channels for him to contact you then you don't have to worry about it, right? If you are leaving a door open somewhere, then you are still

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 3:44pm

I can relate: totally relate. We are on the same day together ... day 3.

I find myself in a LC situation because we work together, in fact we are contracted to do work just between the two of us )-:

Anyway for right now, I haven't had contact since I said good-bye on Saturday. Actually, that's not true. He sent me an email telling me he was uncertain how to act at our next meeting together, the following day, and that's when I realized he didn't understand that it was over. I sent an email stating that so he could be certain, the A was over. I haven't heard from him since, but I know I need to. I'll need to be able to communicate on a daily basis through email and in person in our shared office. But I also know, that all this NC is giving me the time to let the fog start to clear, so that when I do see him I'll be able to stay my ground. There is no going back now. I just keep repeating those lines in my head "When will Enough be Enough??? .... fill in the blank" and that helps move me forward.

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Registered: 01-17-2010
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 4:29pm

Thank you ladies.

myShadow (cuz surely this isn't the real me)

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Tue, 01-19-2010 - 9:50pm

I remember many moons ago when I ended the A.

Onward and upward.