Feels weird to be here, but hi!

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Feels weird to be here, but hi!
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 10:40pm



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Thu, 04-19-2012 - 10:52pm
Hi, JJ.

It's probably not a completely bad thing if it feels weird to be here. Not everyone has a wonderful place to go to every day where people genuinely care how you're doing and will warn you if you're about to step in poop. And let's face it, with our A's, we've stepped in some poop in the past. I'm a newbie here so I'm not drawing on a lot of experience but I can highly recommend coming here to write when it gets too hard. I also recommend coming here when things are going well, coming here when something takes you by surprise and knocks you sideways on your journey. This is just a good place to be. There's always tea on and someone to chat with.

Welcome, welcome, welcome.
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Registered: 06-08-2010
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 11:42pm
Jane!!!!! So happy to see you over here...not sure if you remember me, but I am the new CL over here and I was always following your posts on the other side. So, just a few days ago you ended? And you made it official!! Sweetie, we are here to help you through the yucky stuff of ending. I can't remember, were you, or are you in T?
You know this is a welcoming place and I plan to keep it that way. I'm following in Iddy's beautiful footsteps and everyone over here loves to dish out loads of cyber (((HUGS))) and tons of encouragement that is super valuable. :)

Hearts <3
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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 12:03am

Welcome back, Jane

The big 'drag it out'...happens a lot.

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 7:31am
Glad to see you back JJ :)
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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 7:36am
Good morning and welcome :) SO glad your ending and pushing forward!

Sometimes love just isn't enough.... NC since 7-30-14

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 10:32am
Hi Jane !!!!!!!!!!!!

I have so missed your posts! So here you are back to square one...hey all is good. "Feeling weird" to be here....nahhhh....because this is the place to get to do a "do-over". You just were not ready before. You still needed to turn over some rocks...you were searching for something....and you didn't find it. Some of us go back...break NC.....trying to get that xap to meet our needs, get him to have a REAL relationship. From my length of time on this board it seems to have a dismal success rate.

I think the most difficult hurdle to get over in the early months of NC is transitioning our mindset from the fantasy thoughts of the "love affair" to the sobering truth of what it really was.

Okay Jane.....stay here..I want to see you get your wings.....maybe an early Feather :)



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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 12:01pm

Welcome JJ!

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 12:29am

Thanks for the welcome!

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 7:58am

Morning Jane :)

Sounds like you've doing a lot of introspection..that's great.

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Sun, 04-22-2012 - 10:59am

I would be remiss if I didn't welcome you back.

We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.