Finally

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Registered: 02-01-2011
Finally
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Sun, 02-27-2011 - 9:27am

I just want everyone to know that after 2 weeks of not being able completely go no contact...I have done it.

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Registered: 02-02-2011
In reply to: daisyway3
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 10:16am
Daisy
I understand the hard time thing I have to be very selective in my reading, I have abandoned many things a paragraph in cuz they make me sad or start thinking hey maybe I can be w xap if only I learn to live with blah blah.... I get to wandering and I say ok STOP we can't read this one.
Great job with what you've done stay with us!
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Registered: 11-22-2009
In reply to: daisyway3
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 12:44pm
Daisy,

Good for you in deleting and blocking. You'll see how in just one week the fog will start liftin, and in a couple more weeks you will want to read everything posted here. Yes, there will always be triggers from newbies who are writing from the heart instead of their head, but as you heal, it will not negatively impact you as much as they do now. Remember you are very raw right now. I would suggest to keep reading the Healing Library and any posts from the Tweeners and Vets (check out the roll call thread to see who is who), You will always find solid advice and meaningful insights in what they have to say.

No one can make your feel "less than worthy" without your permission, honey. Yes, at least you are taking steps to block a source you already know as toxic to your wellbeing, but for future reference, realize that no one can demean or belittle you unless you let them.

We are here for you and we want nothing more than to see you healthy and happy again.

((Hugs))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 04-01-2010
In reply to: daisyway3
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 5:35pm
(((Daisy)))
You will always have a source of strength and reality here at EAS. Like Iddy, I cringed when I read the part about not letting him make you feel less than worthy. I want you to think about that. Is there anything about what you were doing with this man that ever made you feel worthy? It may still be too soon for you to understand that question and answer it honestly. In time you are going to know that your worth comes from within and how you choose to live your life. Worth is something you earn for yourself. And no one can take that away from you if you live honestly and true to yourself.
Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 11-16-2010
In reply to: daisyway3
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 6:41pm
Hi Daisy

My XAP and I both felt we truly loved each other, and no-one in this world could tell us otherwise, but the fact is that was not love, that was addiction, we were truly addicted to one another, because love:

- isn't meant to make you feel less than worthy, it's meant to make you feel extremely worthy
- isn't hurried and restricted, it's spontaneous, unscheduled and timeless
- isn't meant to destroy families, it's meant to create families and bring them together
- isn't giving one another crumbs of your time, it's about being there for one another all day every day.

Daisy, i know you are very raw right now, God i remember that pain so vividly, but that will ease i promise you, and in time you will concur that what you had for one another was not love, but rather an intense addiction to one another

You have made the best decision and taken the right steps Daisy, as No Comprises stated in another thread, going NC is a stroll in the park by comparison to having a Dday, always remember that.

Stay here with us, the people here are incredible.


V888
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Registered: 10-14-2010
In reply to: daisyway3
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 7:32pm

WELCOME to your new home for the NEXT MONTHS, Daisy!!!!

TURN ALL YOUR THOUGHTS 110% On YOURSELF.

Every thought of anything jam related - is simply a reminder to THINK OF YOURSELF.

'i wonder if he misses me' BOING - - - -> "WHAT DO I NEED TO DO TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF???? WHAT DO I NEED????"

I PROMISE YOU...PROMISE....if you do this each and everytime that a thought of

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010