First Day LC - AWFUL!!

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Registered: 06-12-2009
First Day LC - AWFUL!!
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Mon, 06-07-2010 - 10:58pm

Went to work today determined to abide by the rules of LC and no eye contact.

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Registered: 10-21-2009
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 11:22pm

Hey and welcome. LC is the hardest thing ever, and one thing that I've leaned (the hard way of course) that you really have to put boundaries. You have to tell him you want NC/LC in the first place - or he'll see it for game playing and it will backfire. And prepare yorself for feeling like crying and throwing up for many days to come - that's normal when the person you want to avoid the most is in your face all day long with no escape. You just have to suck it up and put your happy face on even if you're dying inside - and then hope for the best - that with time it will get easier.

Love,
Gone




Edited 6/7/2010 11:35 pm ET by gonebabygone
**Bloodied but unbowed**
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 06-08-2010 - 7:31am

I agree with GBG. Let him know that you are done or else you are still in the game. I know saying the words get caught in the throat but it's better to let him know where he stands than having him knock YOU to the floor with his game playing antics. Regardless as to how you still feel about him, he sounds immature and not one to handle rejection well. So, telling him would be easier than continuing to die a slow emotional death over the way he is going to treat you anyway. Rip that band-aid off, sweetie. I asked for space and Xmm gave it to me, no questions asked. Did that hurt? Oh heck yeah, but at least the cat was out of the bag and both of us were aware that an ending was in the works.


(((Hugs)))

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-23-2009
Tue, 06-08-2010 - 10:42am

Wow, 1st day of LC eh? Yes, it is very tough, no doubt. Let me just say a few things, some things that hopefully will be encouraging to you;


I work with my XMM and yes, it SUCKS BIG TIME! Especially being your first day and all....ouch, BUT IT WILL GET BETTER IN TIME! Trust me when I say this - it will get better.


First of all; you need to tell him what is up becuase like the other ladies here have stated he will see if as