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Registered: 01-06-2005
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Thu, 01-06-2005 - 1:59pm
I have been lurking for awhile. I had a six-month affair with one of my husband's colleagues. His wife was my best friend. We finally ended it this past Sunday and for once, both of us agree that it is over. Before, one or the other would try to break it off but the other person would pull him/her back in. At Christmas we both realized we couldn't keep it up and had to focus 100% on our marriages and try to work things out. So we came clean to our spouses and are going to therapy. I have been reading here and know about NC and know it's the best thing. So far so good. The problem is, since my husband works with him, and we used to be very good "couple" friends, we don't want to jepordize anything with their employer. There are social events and other things that we are all expected to attend. I want to do the right thing. I plan to skip the ones I can and just avoid him as much as possible otherwise. Any other advice? This has been hell and if I get through it all I am going to figure out a way to warn other women considering an affair, IT'S NOT WORTH IT...
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Registered: 04-22-2004
In reply to: deceivedme
Thu, 01-06-2005 - 2:03pm
You said it best ! It is NOT WORTH IT ! The feelings of butterflies in the beginning is not worth the humiliation and hurt you will feel when it is over. TRUST ME !! I learned the hard way. I would love to use me by example to keep atleast one other girl feeling like this.