First time here, need serious support

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First time here, need serious support
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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 10:45pm
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Edited 1/29/2005 2:06 am ET ET by meltonqueen
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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 11:02pm

MQ

Sorry to have to tell you this but your going to be a hurting for a while to come BUT you will get over it and move on. Your best friend is TOTAL NO CONTACT, forget closure it's mostly a myth in these things.

It is GOOD that you chose to end it thats going to help you alot so don't waffle and lose that advantage it's a major emotional gift to yourself.

Your XMM sounds pretty typical of CHEATING MARRIED MEN, once caught there true colors start to show and mostly the color is YELLOW, they run like rabbits to cover there butts.

The tears will stop your hurt will fade and you will move on in time COUNT ON IT.

IF/WHEN he tris to get things going again my advice is to tell him not to call you until he can put a DIVORCE DECREE in your hand, NO B/S NO DOUBLE TALK just the decree.

Welcome aboard

Free

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Thu, 01-27-2005 - 11:35pm
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Edited 1/29/2005 2:08 am ET ET by meltonqueen
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 4:51am
hey MQ.... I think that you will find a lot of support on this board, I know I have. I lurked here for quite a while before I ended the affair I was involved in. There are a lot of hard truths on here that you can only get from people who have been through what we all have. It mostly comes down to trusting someone that didnt deserve our trust, and loving someone that used us knowing they had no intentions of following through on empty promises. Remember that it will get better, and even though the hurt is horrific, it will make you stronger in the end. The men we involved ourselves with are for the most part too weak to put themselves in any jeopardy, yet we jeopardize ourselves for them. Use this time to find yourself, to heal yourself, and reflect on how and why you got involved in the first place, so that you can avoid relationships like this in the future. Don't beat yourself up. It's his loss. We are all too good for these men. All of us.
Hugs.
Kell
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 6:53am

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Sunny
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 10:13am

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I totally agree with sundrian. He will try to find his way back in when the dust settles at home. Prepare yourself now. Be strong. Know you are not alone. Big hugs to you.

SS

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Fri, 01-28-2005 - 1:33pm

Hi MQ,

I didn't want you to think I wasn't responding to your post when you were still in the A. I see that now you are on the EAS board, so I will support your decision here.

I am sort of in a limbo right now with my MM. I still don't know if I am in my A, or not. Either case, I don't wanna get into my A right now, since this is the wrong board for that. I am just here to support YOU and YOUR decision.

I know you are doing the right thing, but be prepared it will be VERY tough in the beginning, that is NC. I've been there before and it drove me crazy. But keep posting on this board. The members here are very nice, I've been on the EAS board in the past and I got all the support, however, since then I am back in my A, so I am on the other side right now.

Anyway. Hugs to you and stay strong. So far you got some great support here.

Take care,

PG :)

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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 5:44pm
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Edited 1/29/2005 2:11 am ET ET by meltonqueen
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 6:09pm
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Edited 1/29/2005 2:13 am ET ET by meltonqueen
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Fri, 01-28-2005 - 6:16pm
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Edited 1/29/2005 2:14 am ET ET by meltonqueen