The fog is a prison

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The fog is a prison
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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 8:35am
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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 8:59am

YEAH alice!!


what a wonderful post! i am so happy for

~ life....

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 9:13am

Ah yes. This is a great feeling and it truly liberated me in the early days of NC. Hold onto that feeling. Remind yourself of this moment and epiphany if you have down days ahead. You are right- we were prisoners of the fog and we have now escaped. What a happy day for you, Alice.


Hugs,


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 9:42am

Alice, your post is inspiring.

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Registered: 04-23-2009
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 10:53am

I am so happy for you!!!!! Today I am 10 days NC/LC (we work together)

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 2:06pm

It's amazing isn't it?

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Registered: 11-04-2009
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 2:49pm

Way to go Alice!!!! You made me smile!!! We were all prisoners but we didnt see it at the time.


Lets see, I hid my cell phone in a bathroom drawer while I showered, in a jewelry box during the night, locked it most of the time, never let my H or my kids EVER use it. That was then!! Now, I leave it in the kitchen, let my kids play games on it and I even have it alert me with a ring tone when I get a text.


Thanks for posting this because I needed this reminder of how far I have come and how I never want to be in that prison ever again!!


GMLB

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 3:18pm

You can try to blow smoke and think your A is the special one, but really it truly is a prison of fog. Didn't we all think that!

For the first week after I ended it (LDA) I was so relieved. I threw away the cell phone I bought just for his calls. Threw out the charger and junk that went with it. Made sure I blocked his numbers on my real life cell and email ! And then I deleted 4 years of emails. Then 4 years of pictures from him. Like so many others, I got so nervous about my laptop. I hated it when someone else used it, so afraid I might have left something open or had an email draft open. (did that once) I too had to run all over the house deleting call history on our land line phones after we talked. I threw out dresses and lingerie I bought just to please him. It was crazy! But we were so deluded by the fog, this nuttiness was ok behavior. Getting away with it all, just gave us the ok to keep doing the same. The negative energy we put into the affair was totally wasted time, just kiss those precious days/months/years bye. I can't recall any productive time during my affair. Totally fogged in for 3yrs., with the fourth and final year being the end.

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 4:48pm

Oh my gosh you guys--Alice, yahoo!

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Registered: 08-15-2009
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 5:10pm

This has been therapeutic for me to read today....thank you for posting it.


I remember worrying whether or not I had logged out of my email, locked my phone, threw away any letters that I wrote to ex-MM....all for what??

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Registered: 05-21-2010
Tue, 05-25-2010 - 6:25pm
I totally hear you about the cell phone and the freedom!