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| Wed, 06-30-2010 - 7:40am |
Does anyone have advice about being followed by their XAP? I'm not in fear physically. But will he FINALLY get it this time?? Long story short, I've been trying to end this for a week and a half (or 7 1/2 years, depending on how you look at it...) I tried to just disappear, didn't work. We finally had the "don't contact me until you've left your W" talk on Sunday. Monday I noticed him driving by my office several times during the day. Yesterday, same thing but I got a text that said he's not an idiot. (translation: I know you are up to something, you are seeing someone) He can't possibly imagine that I don't want anything to do with him because he is a MM and I'm sick and tired of getting nothing from him. No, I don't want to talk to him (insert sarcastic tone here) because I am already flinging it up with some other man and lying to him about it. Please.
I'm going to walk to work this morning so he won't know that I'm there. He'll be back at work next week, and won't have all this time on this hands, so hopefully it will just stop. Affairs turn us into such ugly people. I've said things to him that I can't even believe I've said. I've been treated in ways that I never would have imagined allowing. Why? For what? Last night as I was playing a game with my daughter, son and son's girlfriend. I thought to myself "I'm not having an affair anymore". And it felt good.
Bodhi

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I appreciate any and all points of view, so thank you. And I'll also take advice from anyone who offers it.
You are so right, and he'd NEVER admit that he has a huge ego. And I was some pretty good food for it too.
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I had to laugh at that too - does he ACTUALLY THINK that I'd have a man here in my office? Sorry, but I'm holding out for a restaurant with the next man.
As you said, I'm sure he's feeling pain, but he's manifesting it in his crazy way, not dealing with what he needs to deal with to fix it. BUT, that's not my problem anymore.
Haven't noticed any "drive bys" today, and no messages either - day 4! I'm leaving soon to play golf and not think about any of it for a few hours.
Bodhi
Iddy -
I love the term "tool" - it's one of my favorites.
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Exactly - because good old Bodhi's not going anywhere.
wrong. :)
Yay Ratherbeme! I am so glad you found your way over to EAS. Your voice has been one I've appreciate on my blog for some time. Your advice/response here is perfect. I think the MPOV is very valuable on this woman-dominated board. Thank you for chiming in.
Hugs,
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Thank you so much for posting the MPov!
Babysteps
...even if it is all I can do, I can take one babystep.
NC/LC since May 21, 2010
Thank you all, for the compliments.
I notice when anyone posts, (a majority of the time) that you have thought through what you are saying and it all sounds sensible.
Lets be honest.
We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.
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