Food for thought about the obvious

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Registered: 04-24-2012
Food for thought about the obvious
Fri, 06-08-2012 - 5:00pm

Hi everyone -

I saw this 'inspirational quote' posted on a friend's FB newsfeed, and it really hit me.  I wanted to share it not to feed into our hopes that our xAP still wants us, but to remind us of the obvious:

If he misses you, he will call.
If he wants you, he will say it.
If he cares, he'll show it.
And if not, he can't be worth your time because you're obviously not his.

As I'm trying stop my obcessive thinking while I keep NC (or LC given social circles), this is a big 'ah-ha' statement. So often I find my emotional self creating scenarios in my mind about what he's thinking about me. Which is really stupid (not to mention a waste of energy), because my logical side knows he's not thinking about me..  And this statement is a great reminder of that!  This gave me some strength today, hope it has the same effect on some of you.  Take care.


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Registered: 12-19-2011
Sun, 06-10-2012 - 7:24pm
During the A and when it first ended I believed if he missed me he'd call and if he wanted me he'd tell me. A year later and after withdrawing and healing to the point I have, I know he's showing he cares, or at least knows what's best, by Not calling. I think the.quote applies to more traditional relationships. In an A the respect and dignity comes from ending and letting each other go to live real lives.
Just because they aren't fishing...doesn't mean they don't miss and want. They could very well be thinking of us but all parties to an A are always doing the right thing by keeping away.
But I very much agree with that quote for Non-A relationships!