Forgive me?

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Forgive me?
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Sat, 06-05-2010 - 8:27am

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Sat, 06-05-2010 - 1:45pm

So you danced the tango with the devil and when you felt the painful jab, you realized that wasn’t a hand trying to slide down your waste to your derriere but a claw!


<she is now dead, along with the A.>>


If this is true, she cannot be revived to take a phone call, to read emails and/or reply to them. BTW what are you doing differently so he cannot contact you any further? Have you blocked him from emailing? Placed any safeguards on your phone? It’s great to read that you are finito benito but what “actions” are you taking?


<<(yeah that makes a lot of sense, huh?, after I break up with you and try to move on?)>>


Yes it would make sense if the person is sending it anonymous and their A is over, they would believe because they are now out of the loop they could not be found out. They may believe it was a safe way to get back at him.


I hope you are not engaging in sending anonymous info to his wife. It is documented here in various old posts about the road to revenge that I took. I tried doing something similar and I tell you that I would have swore in the beginning that my motivations were to warn his new G/F about him but in the end the truth was I was trying to hurt him and his relationship as mine had been damaged. I was also doing it in a way that was hurting someone else that did not deserve to be hurt. He is such a good liar that he lied his way out of all sorts of things his new G/F discovered on his computer.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Sat, 06-05-2010 - 2:08pm
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Sat, 06-05-2010 - 3:37pm

Alice,


Is that Anaconda poo or the small garden snake variety poo? I ask because one is a heap of shiznit while the other is well much easier to clean up!


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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Sat, 06-05-2010 - 3:55pm

Alice you are my soul sista!


I am dealing with what you did too! (see avoiding Fatal Attraction-itis)


I am so angry.

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Sun, 06-06-2010 - 8:26am
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Mon, 06-07-2010 - 4:57pm

Oh Alice, the evolution you are making in poop-oligy is encouraging!


Thanks for the interest in my seedy “revenge” destructo path that was littered with glass chards and more anaconda poo then you can imagine!


But…hmmm….why do you want to know (E1 with arms folded, toe tapping, head sideways and slightly down, eyes looking up through scowled brows.)


Most was done anonymously through cyber space in ways that were difficult to trace back to me. I was trying to figure out how I could post the details about it and not give someone one a horrid idea of the wrong way to use the internet. Especially since a poster is making it clear she is struggling with wanting to get revenge.


So here is what I was thinking Alice, oh IDK maybe when you earn your Tweener wings which is only three months out if you are still interested in my debacle then shoot me an email and I will tell you the whole story. Just a warning though. You might want to have lots of coffee/tea whichever is your preference cause lemme warn you it will be so long that I’ll have to divide it up into chapters….HA! Still wanna read it?


So how does that sound for a deal? I know you are getting your Tweener wings! The bigger reward will be your NC status because earning Tweener wings just to hear my story is well not much of a reward.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 8:10am
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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 8:42am

My Dear Alice-


I have been away from the board the past week and didn't know you were struggling. I am so sorry. I hope that you now have the motivation you need to move forward. You let so many thoughts swirl in your mind about whys and hows of the ending. I hope it is very clear to you now that he is no good for you and that it is over for good- there is only pain there- an endless cycle of pain. I look forward to watching you heal and will be here with you every step of the way.


Hugs,


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 9:23am
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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 10:17am

Alice,


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Close enough. Expecting a different "result" is how it goes, but reaction works too. ;-)


<home with me until NOW! >>


As the saying goes, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear." You know, Alice, you entitled this thread, "Forgive me" which is not near as important as forgiving yourself. When you can do this, you will definitely smell the flowers and hear the birds sing again.


About that NC counter, since he contacted you and *if* you can honesly admit that you have now blocked all avenues for him doing it again, then no need to lose those days you already have under your belt.


Keep it real, honey. Make your A one for the history books.


((Hugs))

   ~Iddy~ 


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