Forgiveness? I need opinions from a religious point of view....
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|Wed, 08-01-2012 - 12:15am|
I also posted this on AYA so that I could get as many opinions as possible. A few things have been on my mind lately..... Some of you may be familiar with my story...short affair with a guy I attend church with...it has been about 7 months since the PA ended and a little over 3 months since we went NC.
Anyway, I have struggled with the forgiveness issue for a long time. My husband does not know about the affair and I have wondered if God could forgive me for adultery if I continue keeping the secret from my husband. Last week I was talking with my Mom about something totally different (she doesn't know about the A either) and she said that she thinks we can only be forgiven of sins after we make them right. I don't agree with this myself. I can never do anything to make this situation right...I can't turn back time.
Also, I wasn't the one who ended the A....nor was I the one who decided we didn't need to be in contact anymore. I worry about forgiveness because of these things, too. I didn't stop the A because I was trying to do what was right....if he hadn't of ended it I would probably have kept on for a long time. Can I be forgiven for the A when I still have fond feelings for xap? If I was truly remorseful wouldn't those feelings go away? It isn't as if I'm still pining away for him...I've pretty much moved on, but the fondness is still there.
So, I know that I am the only one who can ultimately answer these questions for myself, but I am curious as to what others believe on this topic. Thanks!